This is from a woman's perspective.
Last night I got very insecure about my very small breasts and for the first time it put me off making love with my fiance. I have a high libido but 'cos of my insecurity and media obsession with breast size I felt inadequate, not sexy and felt my performance wasn't good enough. My fiance thought this was ridiculous and helped me feel I was totally sexy to him even though I don't feel womanly enough.
Tonight I just watched the TV prog about penis size and was fascinated to find out that men have insecurities too but unlike women they find it more difficult to talk about it. Thank God for the internet!
I would say from my perspective, though I have to add that this will not be everyone's, I think a man being besotted with you, showing you attention in and out of bed, flattering your personality and looks and taking their time with you is the biggest turn on. Give you woman full attention. Take the focus off your self and onto the woman. Having someone who treats you like this and is hard is a big turn on. Being hard means that she feels sexy enough to turn you on. Prolonged foreplay, teasing, telling her how much of a turn on she is whilst in bed is better than any size issue.
I have to say that I don't know what it's like of course so sorry if I seem unsympathetic. It mustn't be too good if you've had comments from insensitive girlfriends. I'd say let them go and find someone who appreciates the finer things in life. You and her will be happier for it.
I'm willing to discuss this and to be open-minded. Take care everyone and stay focused on love not lust :-)
Well, what you said would be true in the perfect world, but comparing breast size to penis size is not even close to the same thing. Breasts do not have a single remote thing to do with sexual pleasure in the physical sense, the penis however, does. Sexual pleasure during intercourse with a man is directly related to his size. Some are too small, some are too big and some are just right. And, yes there are millions and millions of women wish their partners were bigger in that area. Doesn't mean they don't love them, but if they had the ability to change one thing about their partners, I am betting that the size of Capt. Winky would be the number 1 answer on the adult version of Family Feud!