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#481 - 04/08/08 02:17 AM Poll for Girls: Spontaneous Erections
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Girls, say a fella came up to you at a club and started talking to you BUT you notice he's got an erection in his pants. Is it a turn-on, or not?
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Only one choice allowed (476 total votes)
Yep, it\'s a major turn-on! - 182 (38%)
It\'s OK, at least he likes me. - 94 (20%)
I wouldn\'t mind one way or the other. - 88 (18%)
No, it would put me off him. - 57 (12%)
Urgh! That\'s a turn-off! - 55 (12%)


Edited by George (04/20/08 04:57 AM)

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#482 - 04/08/08 02:20 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: George]
Anonymous
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Haha, great poll!

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#487 - 04/08/08 09:51 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Anonymous]
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It's totally different every situation. If you were dancing together and it happened, that's OKAY, but just out-of-the-blue walking around with a hard-on is kinda weird....those of you think it's a turn-on or that he's attracted to you are not with it! There's gotta be more to the story or something ELSE that lets me know he's aroused by ME and not just every other person there.

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#489 - 04/08/08 03:33 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Anonymous]
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how is it wierd....Dicks have their own brains....Really they do..If a guy gets one out of the blue, it doesn't always man it's cause he is looking t someone else besids you....

Could be he is talking and walking with you daydreaming about what he wants to do with you!

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#503 - 04/10/08 06:03 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Anonymous]
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Originally Posted By: Anonymous
It's totally different every situation. If you were dancing together and it happened, that's OKAY, but just out-of-the-blue walking around with a hard-on is kinda weird....those of you think it's a turn-on or that he's attracted to you are not with it! There's gotta be more to the story or something ELSE that lets me know he's aroused by ME and not just every other person there.


I sort of agree here; I think I would find it a bit startling, but, on the other hand, as Juls points out, dicks do have a mind of their own so it's kinda natural for it to happen - in all that heat surrounded by loads of sexy women. It depends on his general attitude towards me as to whether or not I would find it a turn-on; he might be embarrassed by it's obviousness himself!

After all, the same thing can happen to us ladies in that we could equally be in a state of sexual arousal talking to someone we're attracted to, it's just that it doesn't show on us (unless, of course, you're wearing a very short skirt, with no panties on and start to slide off your chair!!).

I bet no guy would be turned off by that!




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#507 - 04/10/08 08:14 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: shylily]
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Well Lily, I guess I can't claim to speak for the entire male gender, but I think it's a pretty safe bet you are correct. Nipple erections don't offend us too much either.

Keep in mind that some guys are "showers" and may look like they have an erection, when, in fact what you are looking at is a large flaccid cock.

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#514 - 04/11/08 03:09 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Anonymous]
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I have to say this one depends.

If I think he's cute, oh yeah, the hard-on is a big turnon and a nice ego stroke.

But if this is some skeezy, creepy dude, ugh.. forget it. Still flattering, I suppose, but not anywhere near as appealing.

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#575 - 04/19/08 11:51 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: quilzas]
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If he is making no effort to conceal the fact then that is kind of creepy but if he is trying to play it off or conceal it somehow then I would cut him some slack since erections are not something he can totally control.

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#594 - 04/23/08 03:47 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Anonymous]
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"a large flaccid cock"

now THAT'S a turn on!

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#842 - 05/12/08 11:52 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Anonymous]
Anonymous
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i have a belt on my shorts that flops over my crotch 'cause it's long like that. I catch every girl looking at it. Horny bastards.

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#1074 - 05/30/08 09:53 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Anonymous]
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Well i guess i would be able to make up my mind if hes big enough to satisfy me lol ellen renee day

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#1592 - 07/24/08 04:58 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Anonymous]
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god no, some guy walking up to you with a boner, i would find that such a turn off! if we were dancing together and looking likely to get it on, as mentioned previously, then that would probably be a big turn on. but some random bloke with a boner, no thats just creepy!

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#1673 - 07/31/08 03:14 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Anonymous]
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for the ladies who said yes to the poll, tell me where u are and what club you go to. :P

But seriously, is it true that there are those situations that u can just go into club/bar/party (or what not), find the right girl, and then get off with her? i honestly thought that that was stuff in porn movies or sorority parties at uni. i ask this, because i don't want to make the mistake of trying to meet a girl, try talking her up, and then make a complete fool of myself... anyone have ideas for me?

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#1955 - 08/21/08 12:20 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: ]
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Would you think it's sexy if you were sitting down having a quiet drink and some random cute guy with a big schlong came up to you and started doing "helicopters" in front of your face?

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#1959 - 08/21/08 12:43 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Anonymous]
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In my opinion, I makes me wonder what is wrong with the guy.

Can't he control himself? Is he really that eager? Why is he that eager? Is this his normal behavior for picking up women? And if it is, I wonder what other kind of stuff he does to get attention...

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#2483 - 09/17/08 09:07 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Jessica]
Anonymous
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i think a man doing helicopters is hot

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#2486 - 09/17/08 11:31 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Anonymous]
Anonymous
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what about doing thigh slappers?

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#3574 - 10/26/08 12:36 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Anonymous]
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Some random man walking up with a boner is a bit creepy and stalkerish IMO. I understand that the dick has a mind of its own and will react without warning at times- but to me it shows a lack of class if a man seems to think it an effective way to pick up a woman.

Now if its someone a woman knows and theres a mutual attraction- it can be a huge turn-on to know that a man wants you that bad. Notice I say mutual attraction.

Maybe you could say its flattering in a way-- but a boner can pop up for reasons that have nothing to do with the woman he approaches. He may just be thinking about sex, or a porno he just watched, or a woman he used to screw.. and just feel really horny. Then he just randomly picks someone he finds attractive to approach- or else someone he thinks might be an easy hit.

If the man showed some discomfort or uneasiness about his hard-on-- then I don't think it would be that big of a deal-- but some random guy walking up with a raging hard on, flaunting and proud of it is a class of guy I'm not interested in.

It shows me that he has no interest in who I am as a person- but just how quickly he can get me to spread my legs for him. A total lack of finesse and subtlety. Yuck.


Edited by Firefly (10/26/08 12:38 PM)
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#3860 - 11/02/08 08:32 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Firefly]
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I never had that problem.If I did then it was not to my knowledge.If I was hitting on a girl then I was more worried about being rejected and stuff then if I was horny.I never had alot of confidence before when I introduced myself to a girl.The only one I wasn't nervous with was my wife when I met her.Hey maybe I did have that problem with her.Maybe that is why she married me?
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#4048 - 11/05/08 12:36 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: ]
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Originally Posted By: snooping bitch69

.. other than that if she's not in the least bit attracted to the guy, he wld have to take matters into his own hands if she turns away and hurl the fuzzy navel she jst drank. hahah


Lol!! I really did laugh out loud.
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#4188 - 11/06/08 10:17 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Firefly]
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I really love guys who gets their dick so hard. It's really a turn on for me and it arouses me more as well. I love it!


Edited by sexy_booty (11/06/08 10:18 PM)

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#4834 - 11/18/08 03:20 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: sexy_booty]
Anonymous
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i get hard when i dance and with the rite beat i strip then i put my cock and balls between my legs and pretend its a man-jina then i start bumping and grinding against other dancers

the clubs love it im a main attraction

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#4839 - 11/18/08 08:31 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Anonymous]
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Originally Posted By: Anonymous
i get hard when i dance and with the rite beat i strip then i put my cock and balls between my legs and pretend its a man-jina then i start bumping and grinding against other dancers

the clubs love it im a main attraction
How much time does it usually take for them to get there to take you away?
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#4853 - 11/18/08 04:12 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Anonymous]
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Originally Posted By: Anonymous
i get hard when i dance and with the rite beat i strip then i put my cock and balls between my legs and pretend its a man-jina then i start bumping and grinding against other dancers

the clubs love it im a main attraction


Truth Dodger, you live in a total fantasy world. You could, though, be a main attraction at a circus.

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#4857 - 11/18/08 04:44 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Anonymous]
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Originally Posted By: Anonymous
Originally Posted By: Anonymous
i get hard when i dance and with the rite beat i strip then i put my cock and balls between my legs and pretend its a man-jina then i start bumping and grinding against other dancers

the clubs love it im a main attraction


Truth Dodger, you live in a total fantasy world. You could, though, be a main attraction at a circus.

I have to agree with you on this one.The only place I have seen anything like that was the one time I went to a gay bar many years ago.If he did that in any straight club,atleast where I live,I'm not sure if he would leave the place alive nor with his balls attached to his body.Since he is alive and with his balls attached to his body which, is giving him the benefit of the doubt, it must be have been a fantasy.


Edited by The_Truth (11/18/08 04:51 PM)
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#6989 - 02/27/09 11:00 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Jessica]
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an erection is not a thing easily controllable. and its certainly not as easily to hide.

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#6994 - 02/27/09 04:01 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: ppt]
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Erections can be very difficult for girls to understand. Imagine having a part of your body which has a mind of its own and always seems to do the wrong thing precisely when you don't want it to.
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#7009 - 02/28/09 05:41 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Ratty]
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hence men have 2 heads

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#7019 - 03/01/09 07:12 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Ratty]
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Originally Posted By: Ratty
Erections can be very difficult for girls to understand. Imagine having a part of your body which has a mind of its own and always seems to do the wrong thing precisely when you don't want it to.


I don't know if its difficult for me to understand really.

What I notice is how a man handles it. A man has the chance to come across creepy if he flaunts it in the wrong place or to the wrong person. When I was dating, it was a turn-on if a man I desired got hard for me and subtly let me know it-- if out dancing and partying-- but if its some guy I don't know- that just doesn't do it for me. At least not in real life.

A little finesse is appreciated.
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#7291 - 03/23/09 03:27 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Firefly]
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I was at the beach late last year, and sat at a outdoor seating area of a cafe. a guy came and sat at the next table to me and my sister.and we got chatting. Nothing heavy just passing the time of day and being polite.A little later someone called to him from the beach. and he stood to wave to them, his crotch was at eye level with both me and my sister, ( bearing in mind I am in my 40's and she her 30's and the guy was 20 if a day). as he stood it was obvious he was hard. and obviously curcumsized. It pushed his shorts out so tightly we dident have to imagine anything. I kept my eye open for the rest of the three day trip but ... alas I never saw it.. I mean him again.

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#7292 - 03/23/09 03:40 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: claire]
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Lol! Wow. Well, that was something to see huh? He handled it alright-- its was like he didn't shove it at you or get creepy about it- but it was done is such a way as to be noticeable.

Im 40 Claire-- and I think its very flattering when a man in his 20's is hot for me-- especially with all the beautiful young women around. Not that I'm ugly- but I am old enough to be their mother! Anyways- more mature women like us are probably a lot better when it comes to sex. We've learned a few things, and are more comfortable with ourselves. I know thats true for me compared to when I was 20.

Sorry you never saw him again!


Edited by Firefly (03/23/09 03:41 PM)
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#7304 - 03/23/09 06:25 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Firefly]
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Counting my first marriage and this one that is 20 years old,I can't say that I have had an unwanted erection in over 25 years.I usually worry about unwanted non-erections.
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#9478 - 06/20/09 07:55 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Firefly]
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weird idea .... some guy just walking up brandishing a huge erection, and it would depend on his demeanor and attitude. May make me fall down in hysterics to be fair. I would find it funny.

I dance a lot and some of the moves are very intimate and the guys find it hard sometimes to stay cool but I would never be offended if the guy got an erection in that situation. I understand it can be a spontaneous thing and he may have been thinking of someone else while he was dancing with me.

However if he made it clear he fancied me, then I have a problem cos I never date fellow dancers! So would just have to smile sweetly.
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#9487 - 06/21/09 04:01 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: jules]
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The problem with erection is we can't control it, sometimes it make his appears even not thinking of nothing related to sex, only thing to contain that and not getting that unwanted erections, is make exercise everyday 30min jog or gym, and when the action is needed ill be fully prepared.

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#9520 - 06/22/09 01:38 PM Re: Poll for Girls: Spontaneous Erections [Re: George]
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Quote:
brandishing a huge erection


That sounds like something from bad porn! lol

Not my style! I'm much more likely to be hoping you don't notice, or at least that you realize there's nothing I can do about it. It doesn't necessarily mean I'm thinking about sex, or that something has turned me on, either... it just means my penis has a mind of its own. Unfortunately, it thinks too much! lol

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#9765 - 06/29/09 06:45 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Firefly]
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Maybe a little off-topic but amusing nonetheless,

Spontaneous erections can be a bit of a curse if you have a (now ex) girlfriend who doesn't quite understand how male sexual function works. Allow me to explain...

About 10 years ago I was going out with a girl who I'll call 'J'. She was a wonderful girl but slightly naive (probably still is, wherever she is these days) anyway, whenever she noticed I was having an erection she would immediately want sex. At first it was fun, but after about the tenth time it started to become a chore. One morning, while in bed she saw that I was sporting a massive erection, her immediate reaction was to pull down my underpants and immediately demand I have sex with her. I told her that I wasn't in the mood (it was just morning wood after all) but J insisted. Within moments her knickers were off, a condom rolled onto my penis, and she impaled herself on me. Not wanting to upset her I let her have her fun and I didn't put up a struggle. After she had finished riding me she wanted to know why I said I wasn't in the mood. I told her that just because I had an erection it didn't mean I was her sexual plaything. She replied by saying that she thought that whenever a man had an erection, it meant that he wanted sex and she thought that she was doing me a favour by letting me have sex with her despite the fact that most of the time it was she that wasn't in the mood.
I had to explain to her that we men get erections for all sorts of reasons, and sometimes we can be having a massive erection and yet sex is the last thing on our minds. J immediately looked very sheepish and apologetic and promised to ask me if I wanted sex in future, I told her not to worry about it, to put it down to experience and move on.
It was just a misunderstanding at the end of the day, but it taught her a good lesson. Just because a man is having an erection it doesn't mean he wants sex!
We split up a few years later due to unrelated reasons but looking back, that misunderstanding still makes me smile.
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#9800 - 06/30/09 10:56 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Ratty]
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Originally Posted By: Ratty
She replied by saying that she thought that whenever a man had an erection, it meant that he wanted sex and she thought that she was doing me a favour by letting me have sex with her despite the fact that most of the time it was she that wasn't in the mood.
I knew a girl who felt obliged to offer relief every time I became aroused. I had to explain that it wasn't necessarily sexual and that even if it was, she didn't need to do anything if she wasn't in the mood. So chill, ladies, a bit of wood ain't going to kill your guy, though a kindly offer of assistance is always welcome, as is a nice invitation when you're feeling frisky and we're not expecting it!
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#9905 - 07/02/09 12:15 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: mugwump1]
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Originally Posted By: Ratty
She replied by saying that she thought that whenever a man had an erection, it meant that he wanted sex and she thought that she was doing me a favour by letting me have sex with her despite the fact that most of the time it was she that wasn't in the mood.
I knew a girl who felt obliged to offer relief every time I became aroused. I had to explain that it wasn't necessarily sexual and that even if it was, she didn't need to do anything if she wasn't in the mood. So chill, ladies, a bit of wood ain't going to kill your guy, though a kindly offer of assistance is always welcome, as is a nice invitation when you're feeling frisky and we're not expecting it!


Well said! They never taught any of us about erections as part of sex education when I was at school, so it's no wonder J came to her own conclusion as to what it means when a man has an erection.
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#11505 - 07/26/09 03:10 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Ratty]
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Lol I have unwanted erections all the time but I wear loose pants I l o l at the thought of me wearing tight pants talking to some girl I just met with a 8inch pipe hanging from my leg, embarassing' but cool


Edited by newguy234 (07/26/09 03:12 PM)
Edit Reason: need to start checking for typos
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#12284 - 08/09/09 11:35 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: newguy234]
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I I'm meaured 5 times yesterday at different times of the day and they all came out to ove 8 1/2 could I be going through a dick growthspurt? I knew drinking milk all the time and having a size 14 shoe would come in handy 1day, so I'm finially happy with my size, all the info on this website couldn't change my thoughts but seeing a chick lightup with a happy face when they see my dick in college when I have a strong erection maybe my dad had a big dick?
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#12287 - 08/09/09 01:58 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: newguy234]
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Originally Posted By: newguy234
Lol I have unwanted erections all the time but I wear loose pants I l o l at the thought of me wearing tight pants talking to some girl I just met with a 8inch pipe hanging from my leg, embarassing' but cool


Actually, I think that sometimes erections are MORE noticeable in loose pants. It creates a sort of "tent effect'! lol!


Edited by Firefly (08/09/09 01:58 PM)
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#12291 - 08/09/09 05:14 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Firefly]
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Omg I didn't know, crap, lol
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#12310 - 08/10/09 12:03 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Firefly]
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Originally Posted By: Firefly
Originally Posted By: newguy234
Lol I have unwanted erections all the time but I wear loose pants I l o l at the thought of me wearing tight pants talking to some girl I just met with a 8inch pipe hanging from my leg, embarassing' but cool


Actually, I think that sometimes erections are MORE noticeable in loose pants. It creates a sort of "tent effect'! lol!


Spot on.

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#12373 - 08/10/09 04:37 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: pinkFlames]
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Yeah, true. The other factor here is comfort, though. (At least physically! lol) Even flaccid I'm uncomfortable in anything tight, and when I'm erect it can actually be painful... never mind it feels like it's really obvious.

In loose pants, I'm not as aware of it. Sure, I know I'm erect, but there's no discomfort... it doesn't feel as obvious, and it's much easier to ignore. If I get my mind off of it, it'll usually go away after five or ten minutes. Even when I get a really stubborn one, that's all I can do, and I'd rather be comfortable while I have it.

I know it's sort of a mental trick I play on myself, but I kind of feel like if I don't pay any attention to it, then nobody else will either. (Whether it's true or not!)

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#12399 - 08/11/09 11:10 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Woody]
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I can understand the comfort issue! That would get pretty cramped in there wouldn't it?


But it really is WAY more noticable in loose pants. And don't get me started on sweatpants. Its like a flashing neon sign when a man gets hard.
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#12403 - 08/11/09 03:18 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Firefly]
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Um, yeah... I can't even get away with sweat pants flaccid, so I just don't wear them outside the house. I do choose my pants carefully! lol

It's sort of funny, I guess, but I've always been a little jealous of guys whose erections point at their chin...

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#12415 - 08/11/09 09:46 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Woody]
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Sometimes, with erections that point at the chin, theres a problem with moving it away from the completely upright postion. What that means, is there isn't really a variety of positions that can be done. You may be pretty much ALWAYS stuck with missionary.
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#12423 - 08/11/09 11:46 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Firefly]
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Originally Posted By: Firefly
Sometimes, with erections that point at the chin, theres a problem with moving it away from the completely upright postion. What that means, is there isn't really a variety of positions that can be done. You may be pretty much ALWAYS stuck with missionary.


I have a similar problem, though i can get it down to 90 degree angle from my body but not more so it's not that bad for me but an annoyance for sure.

Wonder if anything can somehow solve that problem...

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#12427 - 08/12/09 12:29 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Noctis]
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Noctis, I'm not sure, but I think the high angle will decrease (become more horizontal) with time and use. I'm guessing this is because the suspensory ligaments (what holds the erect penis up at that angle) gradually wear, or at least relax.

However, I know of a lot of guys who wish they had a higher angle. Some of them had it when they were younger and lost it over time.

If you really have problems with the angle being too high or rigid, I know there is a surgical procedure that involves severing the suspensory ligament. I wouldn't personally recommend it though, because, as with all penis surgeries, there are substantial risks involved. For one, you could end up with an erection that just hangs down between your legs (and that's probably the best-case scenario). Probably not what you want.

As long as you can comfortably bend to 90 degrees with your body, I'm pretty sure you'll be fine for most purposes. If for some reason you need a down-pointing erection, one trick I've discovered is holding the flacid penis down and allowing the erection to form in that position. You have to hold it there with a hand or something else, but it saves you having to forcibly yank it downward from an up-pointing angle (ouch).
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#12434 - 08/12/09 02:03 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: jiji]
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Originally Posted By: jiji
If for some reason you need a down-pointing erection, one trick I've discovered is holding the flacid penis down and allowing the erection to form in that position. You have to hold it there with a hand or something else, but it saves you having to forcibly yank it downward from an up-pointing angle (ouch).


That just doesn't sound comfortable.. lol
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#12445 - 08/12/09 05:47 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: jiji]
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Originally Posted By: jiji
Noctis, I'm not sure, but I think the high angle will decrease (become more horizontal) with time and use. I'm guessing this is because the suspensory ligaments (what holds the erect penis up at that angle) gradually wear, or at least relax. I know of a lot of guys who wish they had a higher angle. Some of them had it when they were younger and lost it over time.
I can vouch for this. I flatter myself that it's down to gravity and heroic feats of penetrative stamina, but it's just part of aging and I think it probably starts fairly early. I agree with jiji that surgery's something best avoiding - I'd be happy with my old more routine 45 degrees, and never found it a problem.

Originally Posted By: jiji
As long as you can comfortably bend to 90 degrees with your body, I'm pretty sure you'll be fine for most purposes.
Indeed - it's only likely to be problematical if your partner's on top and gets carried away, pulling it downward. Sometimes you have to just lay down the law on that score, as it's going to be no fun for either of you if it gets broken.
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#12456 - 08/12/09 01:44 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: mugwump1]
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Originally Posted By: RainbowUnderwear
Originally Posted By: jiji
If for some reason you need a down-pointing erection, one trick I've discovered is holding the flacid penis down and allowing the erection to form in that position. You have to hold it there with a hand or something else, but it saves you having to forcibly yank it downward from an up-pointing angle (ouch).


That just doesn't sound comfortable.. lol

Haha, it isn't really. The things we'll subject ourselves to for you girls...
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#12459 - 08/12/09 02:10 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: jiji]
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I'm 20 so it could be the reason i guess. Thanks a lot for the tips Jiji. For some reason my dick is hard as steel but i can still move it around, just not as much as some people unfortunately. I'll try your trick and hope for the best, but one thing's for sure is that i'll never get a surgery for my dick, heard too many horror stories.

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#12461 - 08/12/09 04:12 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Firefly]
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Originally Posted By: Firefly
Sometimes, with erections that point at the chin, theres a problem with moving it away from the completely upright postion. What that means, is there isn't really a variety of positions that can be done. You may be pretty much ALWAYS stuck with missionary.


I realize that. I mentioned in another thread that my girlfriend had just told me about a former boyfriend who had exactly that problem... his erection pressed firmly against his abdomen, and even missionary left him sore. I can imagine! My erection won't bend downward at all, and even though it's straight out in front of me, that does impose some minor limitations. (For example, cowgirl is painful, but reverse cowgirl is no problem.) If I actually did point at my chin, I'm not sure I'd even be able to use it! lol That definitely wouldn't be worth it!

I'm not sure, either, how much flexibility is normal. I'm not totally rigid, of course, but I don't bend very far in any direction. To the side, maybe 10 degrees or so, and upward to about 45, I guess. Anything past that gets painful very quickly. That's really the main reason for loose pants... I know I'm going to get erections, and I know I can't really conceal them. I can make it a little less noticeable at best, at the cost of a lot of discomfort, or I can do what I've always done... be comfortable and ignore it. The secondary reason is that I'm not comfortable in anything tight anyway... I had boxers even as a kid. I guess if I'd always worn tighty whities, it wouldn't bother me. laugh




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#12464 - 08/12/09 04:47 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Woody]
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I hear you Woody. My natural state is about 60 degrees from horizontal or a mere 30 degrees from my abdomen, when standing straight up. There's no problem bringing it closer to my abdomen, but that's pretty useless. Fortunately I can bend it down to a 90 degree angle with my body pretty comfortably, though it's still "springy." More than that is not comfortable though.

I'm probably naive, but I would have thought the standard cowgirl position would be more comfortable than the reverse. I guess it depends on whether your girl likes to lean forward or back.

Either way, I guess this underscores the importance of communication between partners. God forbid an impulsive move results in something breaking. Youch!
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#12466 - 08/12/09 06:19 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: jiji]
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I guess it depends on the people, jiji. We can do standard cowgirl if she leans forward, with her hands on my chest or shoulders, but if she sits straight up, I'm in pain! If it's reverse, then she has more freedom to move as she wants (up to a point) without worrying about hurting me, and her hands are free to enhance her own pleasure. Three guesses which she prefers... lol!

That aside, I wish I had your flexibility even if it was only upward... that would be very useful for concealment. grin

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#12467 - 08/12/09 07:04 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Woody]
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I'm sure it helps, but even with my angle, if I were only wearing boxers and sweats, I'd be in trouble. Actually, even with briefs or "boxer-briefs" I run into concealment problems if I'm wearing loose-fitting pants or shorts.

How do we ever manage in swimming trunks? Cold water, I suppose. grin
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#12468 - 08/12/09 07:33 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: newguy234]
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I didn't know, that bending your erection was a problem for guys,I can bend it in any direction, probly cause it dingles, but your penis really ban break?
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#12469 - 08/12/09 08:05 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: newguy234]
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Everybody's different newguy. If you can bend in any direction, that probably gives you (and your partner) a lot of flexibility.

Yes, you can "break" your penis or severely injure it if it's bent too hard or too far, especially along the shaft when rigid. I wouldn't advise doing it.
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#12470 - 08/12/09 08:40 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: newguy234]
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Heh - Don't start me on swimming trunks! I let my girlfriend pick them for me, and avoid mirrors! lol! That, and keep a towel handy to hold in front of me... blush

As far as being able to bend it when you're erect, I guess some guys can and some can't, and some are in between... but yeah, you can break it. It makes me hurt just to think about it! cry

Edit: You beat me to it, jiji!


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#12694 - 08/18/09 01:21 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Firefly]
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that is kinda weird. I've never had that problem. It takes a lot more than just looking at a girl to give me a boner. Of course, a dance with her, especially if it was close would cause that, but by that point she's probably already interested in me.

If I happened to have a boner already (from some stray fantasy in my head, for example) I wouldn't approach a girl until I'd calmed down.

To "italian stallion": of course guys can and do pick up girls in bars and clubs. All my long relationships, and many very short ones, started with girls I met in bars and clubs. Including my first wife (a bar) and my current girlfriend (a danceclub). I really like to dance, so I find that's a great way to meet girls. If I don't meet one then it's no big deal because I still enjoyed the music and dancing.

Also, all my long relationships started with sex on the first date. I figure if a girl doesn't have sex with me on the first date, then she's really not into me.

My tip is not to get a boner until you've had at least one dance and/or a couple of drinks with her. If you do, she might put you in the sleazy creep category, and rightly so.

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#12722 - 08/18/09 09:02 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Graham]
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Also, all my long relationships started with sex on the first date. I figure if a girl doesn't have sex with me on the first date, then she's really not into me.



Ummm...wow.
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#12733 - 08/19/09 01:08 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Firefly]
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Originally Posted By: Firefly
Originally Posted By: Graham

Also, all my long relationships started with sex on the first date. I figure if a girl doesn't have sex with me on the first date, then she's really not into me.



Ummm...wow.


ditto

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#12780 - 08/19/09 07:27 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: pinkFlames]
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can you elaborate a bit on your "wow" comment (firefly and pinkflames)?

I'm guessing you think this is bad. Just to elaborate on my end, sometimes I knew these women for a while before an actual date, but not always.

The times I met girls and we had a few dates before we had sex, it never went well because of some sexual incompatibilty. So I've started to feel that the lack of chemistry is what causes the first date not to end in sex.

I've also turned down quite a few dates who wanted to have sex with me on the first night. And again, the reason is they didn't excite me that much. A lack of chemistry again which can't always be explained in simple terms.
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#12787 - 08/19/09 11:48 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Graham]
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I really didn't want to get into a big discussion about it. Kinda 'been there, done that'.

It just that sometimes a woman will hold back a bit, even when its someone shes really into. A woman not having sex with you on the first date-- is not necessarily a woman who is not into you. In fact, it could be just the opposite. She may only want sex with you (which is perfectly fine if you are both on the same page) and really not care whether you feel much for her in the long run- because she has no intention of sticking it out with you. A woman holding back on the first date- may do so because she really is into you, but doesn't want to rush things or get hurt. The fact that you aren't interested in her anymore if she doesn't have sex with you on the first date-- just confirms in her mind that she made the right decision.

Let me be clear that I don't have a problem with sex on the first date. Not an issue. Each relationship is different and will follow a different pacing. Each relationship may have a different focus-- some are for building stronger ties, others are just more for recreation!

Heres a link to a thread where this kind of topic is relevant. I posted quite a bit in there (some very long posts!)-- you can read more of my outlook there if you are so inclined.

http://www.altpenis.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=12087&page=1


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#12796 - 08/19/09 02:35 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Firefly]
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thanks for the pointer to the other topic. I'll jump into that right now, instead of getting too much off topic here.

I will just say that I guess I go for the aggressive, spontaneous, highly sexual women who fancy me. I'm share those characteristics except I'm more laid-back and passive, I believe. If the woman is cautious and timid or just not attracted to me then I'll know that quickly via first night sex test.

It's not that I haven't waited a while for the sexual stage but the results have generally been a failure. Or I lost my patience.

Also, it's said that men like to chase and women should play hard to get. That's a gross generalization. I never like to chase. I like more of the meeting of minds kind of situation. And playing hard to get will never work with me.

Finally, I was always looking for a serious relationship. Never for a ONS (one night stand). If it turned out to be a ONS it was because the sex wasn't very good.
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#12833 - 08/20/09 04:06 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Graham]
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Originally Posted By: Graham
Finally, I was always looking for a serious relationship. Never for a ONS (one night stand). If it turned out to be a ONS it was because the sex wasn't very good.


My own experience is the first time I've had sex with any of my partners, it's been pretty ho-hum. Sometimes things improved from there, sometimes it actually went badly downhill.

I've never ever orgasmed during any of my first time encounters but once I'd built up a trust with the special ones it changed.

I really think it takes more than one time to really know if you've got something worth working on.

If a good lay is all that makes a girl worth holding on to, that pretty much cheapens a relationship in my eyes.

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#12854 - 08/20/09 12:23 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: pinkFlames]
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Ditto-- sex isn't always at its best the first time with someone new. Yes, it can be exciting and fun, but you still are learning about each other and what makes you tick, so it can be not so earth shattering as well.
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#12861 - 08/20/09 04:31 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Firefly]
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Originally Posted By: Firefly
Ditto-- sex isn't always at its best the first time with someone new. Yes, it can be exciting and fun, but you still are learning about each other and what makes you tick, so it can be not so earth shattering as well.


I have had this happen a couple of times. Fortunately, one of those times was a one nighter anyways, so I didn't much care as I knew it was the one and only time I would be with him.

For the most part though, first times for me have been unbelievable, absolutely fantastic! I consider myself lucky in that regard.

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#12889 - 08/21/09 12:12 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: ]
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I think sometimes sex can feel fantastic the first time! But part of it may mostly be because its someone new and thats exciting on its own merits. Especially if its someone you've desired for awhile. THeres that first thrill and rush. But chances are- you both don't know yet what really makes the other tick. Part of the fun and excitement is discovering that!
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#12900 - 08/21/09 02:56 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Firefly]
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Not speaking from personal experience, but I wish the excitement didn't have to wear off. I guess that's why people turn to role-playing, kinky costumes and toys, etc. in order to spice things up. It's too bad things need "spicing" in the first place though. I would think perfect matches largely don't.
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#12904 - 08/21/09 04:08 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: jiji]
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Reading through these latest posts, I ran across Graham's "first date sex" reference, and the backlash, and thought: Well. That's a hell of an attitude for a guy to have. Then I realized how many times I've had sex on a first date (actually "date" is being generous) and I realized that I've had the same attitude, though maybe not consciously. If sex didn't happen, I assumed there was a lack of interest in me.

This is sad, let's be clear. We should not feel this way. But maybe a guy like you, Graham, and a very different guy like me, feel similarly about being accepted sexually, and how much that says about our overall appeal. Maybe it's an important thing to recognize.

Jiji: role-playing leaves me absolutely cold. I can't even begin without laughing and feeling silly. I almost envy people who can pull it off. It might be fun.

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#12908 - 08/21/09 05:03 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: jiji]
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Originally Posted By: jiji
Not speaking from personal experience, but I wish the excitement didn't have to wear off. I guess that's why people turn to role-playing, kinky costumes and toys, etc. in order to spice things up. It's too bad things need "spicing" in the first place though. I would think perfect matches largely don't.


The excitement can remain-- but sometimes a couple may have to put some effort into it. Sex can be really great between people who have been together long term. It can be exciting as well as comforting at the same time. Theres a much deeper sense of intimacy for sure.

I do know that the first rush of sex with someone has a lot to do with hormones. Whats that one called? Oxytocin? or something like that. It helps to bond people together in a new relationship. (even extended eye contact with someone can trigger a release of that hormone) After a few years-- that hormone isn't released like it used to be. That can trigger people to seek out that high elsewhere.
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#12925 - 08/22/09 03:37 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Firefly]
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I have better sex four and a half years into my relationship than I did in the first six months. It doesn't always wear off.

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#13005 - 08/24/09 07:05 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: pinkFlames]
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first time sex isn't always about technique really. It's more about chemistry and attitude and a myriad other hard to define characteristics. Some girls I've been with had excellent technique but the indefinable chemistry wasn't always there. For me, large, soft breasts are a major turn-on and a good starting point. But even that doesn't always hit the button.

I sometimes spend hours pondering what defines chemistry and it's a tricky one to put my finger on. A lot has to do with smell and touch. Like the feeling of a girls skin and the smell of her hair. And definitely the more obvious feeling of my penis inside her.

Also a girl who is relaxed and enthusiastic, but not overeager and simply confident and comfortable in her own skin. Multi-orgasmic from the start is an obvious positive sign. But then again most girls have been that I've been with. I think that's typical. It's definitely not about a girl who looks like a super model or has six-pack abs. That kind of turns me off.

I just saw some photos of Miss Universe 2009 and she didn't look sexy at all to me. Way too thin and flat-chested to get me excited. But I don't care for overweight girls either. Curvy or voluptuous is a good description of what I like with a flattish stomach.
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#13027 - 08/25/09 11:42 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Graham]
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I think that we really underestimate things like pheromones and such as well. I think some people just smell "right" to us, and while there are many, many other reasons we are attracted to someone-- two right scents meshing together may have more say in our attraction then whether we have the same interests or such. Its the whole "Chemistry" thing in its very basic form.

Now in the long run, if other things do not mesh together as well, then it doesn't do us much good.

Its just one aspect in the bigger picture-- but I do believe that its underestimated.
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#13080 - 08/26/09 06:49 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Firefly]
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I'll second Firefly's sentiments. I've been stupid enough to think that an alcohol-soaked "attraction" to some guy I just met actually indicated something significant, with a shelf life. It didn't; it was some combination of those pheromones, experiences, expectations, and God knows what else that created an "attraction." The sex that sometimes ensued didn't do anything but affirm the fact. I've never been good at ignoring the facts when I'm in bed.

And no - in the long run, it does us very little good.

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#13081 - 08/26/09 08:48 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: concretehand]
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are yes, pheromones. They have a name for the smell of somebody's hair and body. I forgot that wink

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#14234 - 09/25/09 09:51 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Graham]
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Back to the unwanted erection ... speaking as someone in her 40's, I don't really consider it a problem one way or another. I understand about the "mind of its own" thing, but a guy can still keep it from being obvious if he wants to.

So if I do notice it, I conclude that the guy wanted me to. Which is no big deal, really. I might be interested or I might not, depending on who it is, the mood I'm in, etc, etc. But I have to say it doesn't turn me off, even if I'm not interested. I don't automatically assume that I'm the cause of it, so I'm basically neutral about it.

Now it's another thing if I feel it pressing against me during a slow dance. In that case, I do assume that I caused it. And if I'm dancing with him, then I'm more than likely interested in him. So yeah, it's a turn-on then.
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#14889 - 10/07/09 07:17 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: CaroleTucson]
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Depending on a guy's size, and whether he is a "grower" or a "shower" it isn't always as easy as you might think to keep even a flaccid penis from being obvious if a guy wants to.

I find that with a lot of pants that fit my waist and butt just fine, the crotch seam is just too high and there is no place for the thing to go, other than down one trouser leg.

Now that I frequently buy clothes over the internet, or in places like Sam's Club, where there are no changing rooms, it isn't possible to know how much of a problem this is going to be before the purchase, and some pants and shorts I have simply had to return.

And I am not huge, by any means, but I am a "shower" and roughly the volume of the cardboard tube from an empty roll of toilet paper soft. Try sticking that in your panties and making it disappear in pants. You can flatten it out a little bit, but it has to go somewhere.

And at times it is embarrassing because I think a lot of women do have the idea that if it is visible, it is intentional on the guy's part.

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#14899 - 10/07/09 11:36 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: myrealname]
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And at times it is embarrassing because I think a lot of women do have the idea that if it is visible, it is intentional on the guy's part.


I don't agree. I think a lot of women understand that a penis bulge is going to be noticable at times and is not intentional. Theres a big difference between a normal bulge- and a raging erection being flaunted at a woman.

Unexpected erections happen-- a man can't control that-- but how he handles it is key. If some man I don't know or am even interested in, is presenting it to me like an appetizer on a platter-- I will have an issue with that. But if instead, he just stays low key and sort of lets it pass-- thats fine.
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#14901 - 10/07/09 11:47 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: myrealname]
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Originally Posted By: myrealname
I find that with a lot of pants that fit my waist and butt just fine, the crotch seam is just too high and there is no place for the thing to go, other than down one trouser leg.


LOL ... but you don't have to wear them in a situation where there just happens to be a woman to notice.

And isn't this kinda like a woman wearing something low-cut so she can flaunt some cleavage?

Like I said earlier, it's not really an issue to me one way or the other. If it's a man whose erection I'd be interested in anyway, then I'll be interested smile

Originally Posted By: Firefly
presenting it to me like an appetizer on a platter


LOL ... nice image smile
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#14922 - 10/07/09 03:49 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: CaroleTucson]
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I was once dancing really close with an attractive women I had just met once when I got an embarrassing hard on . We were in a place that was so crowded that we had to be really close to each other, then it happened. I got a huge erection and I knew she could tell. I was embarrassed at first and thought I was going to have to walk off the dance floor with this thing. Not what I wanted to do. At one point she whispered in my ear how hot my hard cock was making her. It didn't help the public humiliation i felt but it made me feel like a man and accepted by her. After that the night got really good!!

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#18776 - 02/23/10 08:47 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: ky7]
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I don't know if this qualifies for a spontaneous erection, but it is an unwanted erection. I just got back from seeing my doctor for a physical. When she checked my prostate, she had me stand and lean over the examination table with my pants and thongs down around my ankles. When her finger went in my butt, I had an erection. It was a full throbber, but it was half hard. The embarrassing thing was a couple drops of cum or pre-cum dripped from my cock. I didn't cum, it was just a couple of drops that dripped out and I couldn't control it. I don't know if she noticed or not, but I don't think she did.

I haven't had many prostate exams before, and this is the first time this happened. Is this normal? Has anyone experienced this before?

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#18805 - 02/24/10 10:08 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Thonger]
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Dr's are used to that sort of thing. She may have noticed- and was professional enough to not say anything. I had my fun exam yesterday-- but I've never gotten excited by a pap smear! Usually, I can't wait until its over.
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#18879 - 03/01/10 02:49 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Firefly]
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Prostate exams aren't usually something guys look forward to either, so I was kinda surprised at my reaction. I didn't even feel my cock harden. Normally, I can feel it transition from soft to hard when I get an erection, but in this case, I just looked down and it was hard. I remember thinking to myself, "Huh, when did that happen?" Fortunately it didn't stay hard for very long because I wouldn't have been able to get the pouch of my thong back over it. I don't think Dr's are used to seeing cum come out though, are they?

Though embarrassing, I'm kinda interested in seeing if I have the same reaction to this again. I'll have to wait until next year when my next prostate exam is due.

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#21446 - 05/22/10 05:57 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Thonger]
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Originally Posted By: Thonger

Though embarrassing, I'm kinda interested in seeing if I have the same reaction to this again. I'll have to wait until next year when my next prostate exam is due.


If your doc is as cute as mine, make an appointment for next week "just in case." I had the worst crush on my doc - and she was maybe 20 years younger than I am.
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#21447 - 05/22/10 06:04 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Smoldering]
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I remember when I was in high school and went to the junior prom. My date behaved about as straight laced as they come, but she was cute, pretty hot and had um, ... an impressive chest. I had an unpredictable package and at odd times would spring some steel that could rip a hole in the front of a pair of double knit suit pants in nine seconds flat. Or so it seemed.

I was so anxious about it - you could see that 16 year old cucumber clear across the dance floor - that I actually wore a jock strap to the dance. I was worried she'd think I was creepy. Meantime I spent the whole prom so hard a cat couldn't scratch it. I must have been a pretty awkward teen date...

Now I'm in my fifties and have concluded that there is no such thing as an unwelcome erection. Not even close. Around my crowd people say never waste an erection and never trust a fart. ...
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#21450 - 05/22/10 06:18 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Smoldering]
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I rarely get unwanted erections at my age. Every erection I get is usually at the appropriate time and very welcome to me.

I've had prostate exams and urethral swabs (painful) and never got excited. The last time I got an unwanted erection was when I was 20 and at a nudist beach in Germany with 20-somethings running around naked everywhere. I just laid on my stomach until my erection went away.

oh, I just remembered I got one in Beijing at a massage place. But I was wearing my underwear and the masseuse just ignored it. I had an excuse. My girlfriend was kissing me while the masseuse was massaging my thighs. My girlfriend noticed and she was understanding about it and just laughed about it. It was cool and not embarrassing for me.


Edited by Graham (05/25/10 04:19 AM)
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#21484 - 05/25/10 03:57 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Graham]
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Nah, not at my age. No unwanted boners, so I'm happy to go commando when I put on a kilt.

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#21495 - 05/25/10 04:04 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Smoldering]
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Originally Posted By: Smoldering
I had an unpredictable package and at odd times would spring some steel that could rip a hole in the front of a pair of double knit suit pants in nine seconds flat. Or so it seemed.


I don't think I ever danced a slow dance in high school where the boy didn't have an erection. I think that's just the nature of teenage boys.

What was funny about it was that they didn't realize that we noticed. LOL ... how could we not notice? At my senior prom, I think my date was hard the entire evening. He was very tall and I'm on the short side, so his erection poked me in the stomach every time we slow-danced. And he thought I didn't notice!

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#21496 - 05/25/10 04:56 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: CaroleTucson]
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The funny thing is that today I would love every second of it. Back then I was terrified of girls. What would happen if she.. if she.. I had this image of her screaming bloody murder, backing away and pointing at my crotch as if I had become an instant leper. In fact, she was probably looking for a chance to grind her hips a little without making it obvious.

I was the classic "nice guy..." A gentleman. I must have been boring as hell for a horny 11th grade girl to hang with.
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#21535 - 05/27/10 02:58 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Smoldering]
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Originally Posted By: Smoldering
I was the classic "nice guy..." A gentleman. I must have been boring as hell for a horny 11th grade girl to hang with.


Why do you equate "nice" with "boring"? And what do you consider to be the alternative? Bad boys?

Personally, I find bad boys boring as hell. They're juvenile, self-centered, and basically clueless about normal male-female interactions. Bad boys are just that ... boys. Speaking for myself, I'm not interested in boys .. I'm interested in men.
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#21544 - 05/27/10 04:21 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: CaroleTucson]
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Bingo. And we men are interested in WOMEN, not girls. It's a system that works out pretty well.
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#21652 - 06/01/10 09:20 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Smoldering]
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Originally Posted By: Smoldering

If your doc is as cute as mine, make an appointment for next week "just in case." I had the worst crush on my doc - and she was maybe 20 years younger than I am.


The doc who caused the erection isn't cute, but she sure knows how to use her finger! :-) I would love to make a weekly appointment with her, but I think that would be too obvious. I've been wondering what would happen if she kept her finger inside for a longer period; whether I would blast off all over the exam room?

I've had a prostate exam with another doc who was very cute, but she didn't have the same effect on me. I guess that proves that beauty doesn't equate to pleasure.

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#21653 - 06/01/10 09:25 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Graham]
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Originally Posted By: Graham

oh, I just remembered I got one in Beijing at a massage place. But I was wearing my underwear and the masseuse just ignored it. I had an excuse. My girlfriend was kissing me while the masseuse was massaging my thighs. My girlfriend noticed and she was understanding about it and just laughed about it. It was cool and not embarrassing for me.


I've had erections often during my massages. Sometimes I'm wearing a tiny thong so my erection is extremely obvious, or it would pop out of the tiny pouch and be totally visible. One time, my thong fell apart while she was examining me so I stood in front of her totally naked.

During the actual massage, I'm usually nude and often get erections. The massage therapists usually notice but never say anything. Sometimes their hands would accidentally brush against it as they massage my thighs or belly. It's very exciting for me.

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#21689 - 06/02/10 07:16 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Thonger]
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Originally Posted By: Thonger
During the actual massage, I'm usually nude and often get erections. The massage therapists usually notice but never say anything. Sometimes their hands would accidentally brush against it as they massage my thighs or belly. It's very exciting for me.


It would be extremely unusual for a professional therapist to "accidently" touch your penis during body work. Clients are normally nude during the session, but the midsection is covered with a towel. Depending on the therapist, female clients may have their breasts massaged if they request it. But in no case does the therapist touch anyone's genital area.

Professional therapists are licensed by the state and must abide by a very strict code of ethics. The slightest impropriety and they could lose their license.

Therapists obviously understand that men will sometimes become erect during the session and it's not a big deal to them. They are not interested in being professionally censured or in losing their license, so they are very careful about where their hands go.
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#21694 - 06/02/10 08:00 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: CaroleTucson]
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Originally Posted By: CaroleTucson

It would be extremely unusual for a professional therapist to "accidently" touch your penis during body work. Clients are normally nude during the session, but the midsection is covered with a towel.
Therapists obviously understand that men will sometimes become erect during the session and it's not a big deal to them. They are not interested in being professionally censured or in losing their license, so they are very careful about where their hands go.


I know I am very lucky in this regards. I have two therapists that have touched me on a fairly regular basis. They aren't long lingering touches, but just brushes against me as they work up my thighs or around my pelvis. One of them knows it and sometimes says "sorry", while the other one just carries on normally. Of course, I've never complained and look forward to these moments. And I sure won't complain if they decide they want to feel or taste what they're brushing against more intimately! ;-)

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#24251 - 08/15/10 01:31 AM Re: Poll for Girls: Spontaneous Erections [Re: George]
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It's been my experience in the past 15 years that the man will be called a perv and possibly have the law put on him.

We have some very F'ed up young women in this world that have been taught some very awful lessons in the biased public forums.

To be honest I see more male hatred today than I ever have before! Even young girls are looking at ALL men as perverts!

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#24292 - 08/15/10 12:46 PM Re: Poll for Girls: Spontaneous Erections [Re: gamer_reg]
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You really have some "woman hate" going on, don't you gamer? I see from you the same kind of hatred for women that you claim to see that women have for men.
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#24294 - 08/15/10 12:52 PM Re: Poll for Girls: Spontaneous Erections [Re: Firefly]
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I guess that's one good point about being smaller, you can have an erection under your clothes, and nobody knows it but you...

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#24336 - 08/16/10 12:34 AM Re: Poll for Girls: Spontaneous Erections [Re: Firefly]
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Originally Posted By: Firefly
You really have some "woman hate" going on, don't you gamer? I see from you the same kind of hatred for women that you claim to see that women have for men.
My 5th rule of life: Fight fire with fire.

Actually that does not apply here and yes I will admit that I am allowing a fair amount of my bitterness to come out here. I think I have a bit of a right to be bitter.... not that that makes it a healthy way to live but at my age with my future to look forward to it's about my only option.

And it's NOT hatred of women. In fact I will caution you on associating anything I say with the word HATE. Hate is THE singularly most powerful word in ANY language. I don't "HATE" anything. Hate is an emotion..... NOT an action. It bugs the piss out of me to hear people using the word so haphazardly as in "Hate Crimes" and "Hate Groups". That is a tawdry effort to incite and I want no part of the word.

I dislike any attitude that places one person above another. Face it. The politically correct movement in this country has worked hard over the past 30 years to do just that. And in the case of women vs men... well, let's look at the facts. How many "Deadbeat" moms do you hear about? When was the last time you heard anybody talk about the father's rights? When was the last time you heard anybody consider anything BUT the Woman's choice in terminating a pregnancy? Do you see Judges saying Mom, you have to go out and get a job and donate 50% of everything you make to court ordered child support just like the father has to do? And who has to do the ASKING to get married and who has all the decisions in who gets chosen as a suitable husband? Does the man ever get much more than a wish and a prayer?

If bringing up these bias standards in our society lables me as a "hater" then I think the problem lies more with the label giver than the label wearer!

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#24343 - 08/16/10 02:21 AM Re: Poll for Girls: Spontaneous Erections [Re: gamer_reg]
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Gamer, it's a societal thing.. And I do believe that we are stepping away from some of that, albeit very slowly.

There are plenty of deadbeat moms, and there are plenty of deadbeat dads. I've heard discussions of father's rights often enough. I have a few different friends who were raised by single fathers because the father won the custody battle. I also have friends who were raised by single moms. They all turned out okay.

As for the father's right in abortion.. I agree that it took two to make the baby and it shouldn't take one to get rid of it. But the father isn't the one who has to carry the pregnancy for nine months. The father's body isn't being taxed. The way our species reproduction works, a man is simply a sperm donor. If the man carried the child, the man would get to make the decision.

As far as I know, child support can work in both directions. If the father has the kids, I do believe he can collect child support from the mother. But I may be wrong.

And who HAS to propose? No one. Either party can. It's just a matter of tradition and who WILL. Men have a choice in the women that they marry, just as women get the choice in the men that they marry. Neither side has any less choice in the matter.

I'm not calling you a hater, but I will say you're a bit jaded. If you don't like the way society works, fight to change it. But watch your actions in every day life-- a lot of them probably reflect the same ideals you abhor.
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#24353 - 08/16/10 10:55 AM Re: Poll for Girls: Spontaneous Erections [Re: RainbowUnderwear]
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Ok-- so maybe hate isn't the right word. But I do feel that you despise women to a certain extent. I don't care to be lumped in with all the bitter feelings you have towards women in general. I want to be noticed for who I am as a person.. and not for my gender.

You're bitterness for the way things are is reflected in how you feel about women as a group.

Bias runs both ways.. and it doesn't always go in favor of the woman. There are just as many examples... maybe more.. of bias AGAINST women. Its not a 1-way street and the only way to change it on both sides is for people to take a stand.

I think this is happening more-- albeit not as quickly as some of us would like. I don't care for the whole "political correctness" notion to be bandied about as freely as it is.. but it does sometimes benefit people. And sometimes, its more about common decency that is labeled as political correctness.

Political correctness is probably part of what may help men in issues that pertain to children.

There are plenty of deadbeat moms.. I know a few of them and have heard them called that. There are women who turn over money for child support when their wages are larger then the mans. THough I do agree that there are plenty men who are taken advantage of in child support situations. I have seen that myself.

I can't believe you're even angry about the whole "asking someone to marry" thing! lol. I really can't. Traditionally it is the man... but not always. Maybe because typically, men are more likely to have 'cold-feet' when it comes to marriage then women are. Women know that pushing a man too hard into a commitment like marriage is more likely to chase him away then to make him commit. Also, theres a perception of women who are "too aggressive" that pervails when women take the initiative.

Men say they want assertive women-- but I think they want it only within the bounds of what they think is acceptable. They don't want women to grow a pair from what I've seen.

Anyways-- with my husband, I was the first one to say "I Love You". Why is it usually the women who say that first? I told him he didn't have to say anything then-- but it was how I felt. I think I was putting myself on the line there.

And men choose who they are going to marry as well. Its not jut women pointing out and saying "i want to marry him" and they get their wish.

This statement you made is completely contridictory:

Originally Posted By: gamer_reg
And who has to do the ASKING to get married and who has all the decisions in who gets chosen as a suitable husband? Does the man ever get much more than a wish and a prayer?


So-- which is it? If the man does the asking-- isn't he doing some of the choosing as well?


And as for this statement you made:

Originally Posted By: gamer_reg
If bringing up these bias standards in our society lables me as a "hater" then I think the problem lies more with the label giver than the label wearer!



You, my friend, were the one who brought the word 'hate' into the conversation.. not me. You weren't bringing up biases either.. you were making a statment about man-hating women.



Originally Posted By: gamer_reg
We have some very F'ed up young women in this world that have been taught some very awful lessons in the biased public forums.

To be honest I see more male hatred today than I ever have before! Even young girls are looking at ALL men as perverts!



These statement do not sound like societal biases. They sound like bitter statements pure and simple. So maybe hate is the wrong word-- but to me, these statements sound very hateful. Am I really the only one? You are condemning an entire gender with hateful remarks-- so don't lecture me about using the word "hate" in relation to you.



Edited by Firefly (08/16/10 11:06 AM)
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#24382 - 08/16/10 09:22 PM Re: Poll for Girls: Spontaneous Erections [Re: Firefly]
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the only thing I agree with in what gamer_reg said is that divorce courts in california, especially, are totally stacked against the man. I suppose they were trying to redress problems from the past where men were free to abandon kids. But it's gone full circle and now dad's are expected to live in abject poverty so that their ex-wife and kids can have the same standard of living while they were together. Dad's rights is an oxymoron. They don't have any. Just pay up and shut up.

Thankfully, I don't live in the USA so I don't have to abide by them. I pay child support at the UK rate which is 20% of what I earn for 2 kids. That's fair and I don't mind. I don't pay any spousal support. I'd also like to add that my ex-wife makes more money than me, but I don't expect (or get) anything from her.

I'm not sure how we got off on this tangent. So back on topic, I don't agree that men getting a spontaneous erection is going to cause much fuss anywhere I've ever lived. It's what you do after that might cause legal problems.

I have had erections during massages and it's really no big deal. I've also had masseuses graze my naughty bits, either accidentally or deliberately, I don't care. It's kinda nice if they're female.

I'm not sure what Carole meant about state licensing. Is this forum only a one-state forum? I don't think so, it's international and in most countries it's perfectly fine to touch you down there accidentally, deliberately, or if you ask nicely, lol. I got a prostate massage once in China, it was rather, um, pleasant but not exactly what I expected. I think it was more a perineum massage but it may have been mistranslated.


Edited by Graham (08/17/10 02:48 PM)
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#24418 - 08/17/10 02:08 PM Re: Poll for Girls: Spontaneous Erections [Re: Graham]
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Originally Posted By: Graham

I'm not sure how we got off on this tangent. So back on topic, I don't agree that men getting a spontaneous erection is going to cause much fuss anywhere I've ever lived. It's what you do after that might cause legal problems.


Agreed. I'm sure my therapists would have a problem if I started jerking off in front of them. But they see my erections all the time and don't make a fuss about it.

Originally Posted By: Graham
I have had erections during massages and it's really no big deal. I've also had masseuses graze my naughty bits, either accidentally or deliberately, I don't care. It's kinda nice if they're female.


Kinda nice? I think it's totally nice. smile I look forward to my massages with the prospect of getting touched.

Originally Posted By: Graham
I'm not sure what Carole meant about state licensing. Is this forum only a one-state forum? I don't think so, it's international and in most countries it's perfectly fine to touch you down there accidentally, deliberately, or if you ask nicely, lol. I got a prostate massage once in China, it was rather, um, pleasant but not exactly what I expected. I think it was more a perineum massage but it may have been mistranslated.


A prostate massage would have been with her finger up your butt. I've never really had a true prostate massage, but I'd like to try it. I don't consider the time my doctor doing the prostate check a true prostate massage. She only rubbed my prostate for a couple of seconds and I leaked some juice. I imagine if she massaged it for a few minutes that I'd blast off all over the place. A perineum massage would be between your balls and ass hole. I get my perineum massaged during the massage. It's quite pleasant, and yes, I'm usually rock hard and it's laying out in the open as she does it.

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#24420 - 08/17/10 02:54 PM Re: Poll for Girls: Spontaneous Erections [Re: Thonger]
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yes, Thonger, I knew what a prostate massage was but it was mistranslated from the Chinese into the English. So I didn't get that. I got a perineum massage instead. Still it was rather pleasant. Obviously, I was erect the whole time. I think that was the point.

Just for some background, that particular massage was in Qingdao, China. I don't believe touching your perineum or getting an erection is illegal there. If it was, or if it was enforced, probably every massage parlour and customer would probably out of business or in jail. Just not going to happen.

What part of the world are you in Thonger?
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#24516 - 08/19/10 01:52 PM Re: Poll for Girls: Spontaneous Erections [Re: Graham]
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Originally Posted By: Graham

Just for some background, that particular massage was in Qingdao, China. I don't believe touching your perineum or getting an erection is illegal there. If it was, or if it was enforced, probably every massage parlour and customer would probably out of business or in jail. Just not going to happen.

What part of the world are you in Thonger?


If getting an erection was illegal, then just about every man getting a massage would be thrown in jail. I find a perineum massage quite therapeutic for the muscles down there. The erection is just an added bonus.

I'm in Canada, eh?

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#24518 - 08/19/10 05:36 PM Re: Poll for Girls: Spontaneous Erections [Re: Thonger]
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I like Canadians. They generally have a "don't give a f*ck attitude" but cool with it. Laid back yet opinonated. One of my best friends is Canadian. We used to be partners in crime in Beijing. We had too many adventures to detail here.
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#29341 - 10/17/10 09:26 AM Re: Poll for Girls: Spontaneous Erections [Re: Firefly]
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Being in my 50's now spontaneous erections are a thing of the past. I do get them during the night usually in the early morning hours. I am rather large and in my teens and early 20's this definately presented a problem. I can remember only once actually intentionally getting a hard on. I was surfing on Cape Cod and met a group of young ladies. One of them showed interest and I taught her how to surf. We walked to a more private part of the beach. I had a raging hard on under some tight fitting jean shorts. I wanted her to notice and caught her eyes looking which was my intention. I found it extremely erotic and I know she did too. We had no physical contact that day. Neither of us mentioned it but we were both turned on. So I made arrangements to meet her the next day and she accepted without hesitation. So I wake up the next day, get called into work and that was the end of that. It's still a fun memory though.

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#30116 - 11/10/10 12:57 PM Re: Poll for Girls: Spontaneous Erections [Re: livinglarge]
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I really resent the sense of guilt and furtiveness I feel if I get an erection in public when the likelihood is that if a woman does notice it, I'm more likely to be thought of as a pervert than as anything else. It's particularly galling if the woman reacting to me happens to be dressed in a snug satin blouse without a bra. Those make the nicest frames for hard nipples I've ever seen. It's such a double standard that people like me don't even know how to begin to discuss it.

I realize that the solution for me is internal - just stop worrying about it. But that does little to overcome the sense of judgment I feel is going to be inevitable.

Part of me wants to push the envelope - to go commando under a suit and work up a raging hard on just before visiting the bank teller or ordering take out - and to maintain eye contact with any woman I see. But of course nothing of the sort happens.

Its that same voice from my past that told me to wear a jock strap to the high school dance.... aaak. It sure would be nice if I encountered an attractive woman in an elevator who would reach down and give me a few long strokes just before the door opened.

Maybe it comes from being married to a refuser. She's become asexual, so what the hell is my problem and why can't I just get over it? (Maybe its because I'm male and apparently unlike my wife, still have a pulse). I don't know; just please someone in my life do something original to startle me and give me hope for the future of the human race...

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#30120 - 11/10/10 02:22 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Firefly]
lilmissnaughty Offline
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Hmm Have to say the only time I ever notice it I just gave the guy a bit of a wicked smile, licked my lips & went on with what I was doing... Probably dident help him any...... wink
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#30123 - 11/10/10 03:06 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: lilmissnaughty]
Smoldering Offline
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Originally Posted By: lilmissnaughty
Probably didn't help him any...... wink


Heh.. I bet you made his day.
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#32899 - 07/20/11 07:31 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Firefly]
LackingForeskin Offline
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This actually happened to me for the first time with a girl I was seeing very briefly not too long ago. We met for breakfast one day, and sat side-by-side, and she kept kissing me on the neck and rubbing my inner thigh, which pretty much made my dick ascend towards the heavens. When we got up to go pay the check, it was soooooo embarassing.


Edited by LackingForeskin (07/20/11 07:32 PM)
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#32901 - 07/20/11 07:53 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: LackingForeskin]
granny_granola Offline
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I don't think spontaneous erections are anything to be embarassed about. I doubt that most women even notice, unless you press it against them.

But if a man's erection is really that noticeable, I take it as a good sign smile
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#34501 - 09/20/11 07:48 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Anonymous]
andry Offline
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interesting poll.


Edited by George (09/20/11 08:45 AM)
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#34577 - 09/28/11 06:37 PM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: George]
LackingForeskin Offline
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Whether a spontaneous erection is noticeable depends on a variety of factors. Sometimes they're noticeable, sometimes they're not. They can be quite ebarassing in the wrong situation.
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#37451 - 11/23/12 09:36 AM Re: Poll for Girls: Spontaneous Erections [Re: George]
IOS Offline
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smile

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#174172 - 02/10/14 01:41 AM Re: Girls; Unwanted Erection Poll [Re: Thonger]
franzl Offline
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Registered: 01/26/09
Posts: 86
Originally Posted By: Thonger
Prostate exams aren't usually something guys look forward to either, so I was kinda surprised at my reaction. I didn't even feel my cock harden. Normally, I can feel it transition from soft to hard when I get an erection, but in this case, I just looked down and it was hard. I remember thinking to myself, "Huh, when did that happen?" Fortunately it didn't stay hard for very long... I don't think Dr's are used to seeing cum come out though, are they?

Though embarrassing, I'm kinda interested in seeing if I have the same reaction to this again. I'll have to wait until next year when my next prostate exam is due.


I can confirm from my own experiences that you're not alone in your reactions, Thong. wink Your description of not sensing that you're becoming erect is not at all unusual. One reason, I think, is that the patient's attention is too focused on the unusual sensation of the finger's penetration and stroking movement, even if it's a male doctor. As you suggest earlier, it is pre-cum (pre-ejaculate) and not actual cum (semen). But I can also attest that if prostate massage is continued long enough, it then WILL be cum. smile Nothing to be embarrassed about at all: doctors are pretty well used to seeing (or being aware of rather than looking to see, that is) pre-, but probably would be a tad startled by a full-blown ejaculation..... shocked

---Oh, and George, I got a kick out of--and thoroughly agree with--your eloquent comment in the immediately preceding post...!!! :-))


Edited by franzl (02/10/14 01:47 AM)

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#174941 - 06/28/14 03:45 PM Re: Poll for Girls: Spontaneous Erections [Re: George]
JammerJames Offline
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Registered: 02/16/14
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I often get erect when slow dancing. I am very self-aware of it. I don't push it towards her, but if we are dancing really close than my bulge will be pressing against her. To my knowledge, none have complained.
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#174943 - 06/28/14 05:43 PM Re: Poll for Girls: Spontaneous Erections [Re: George]
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Waltz her to the back room and polish her off!

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