is there anyway to tell, if a girl has been with someone bigger than you? I am going out with someone who has slept with 7 other lads, im really insecure about my size because an ex said i was small to her friends who all decided to ask me. i just want to know if there is anyway to know if she has slept with bigger people..

thanks for any help

Just don't go there, seriously it causes nothing but trouble.

The only certain way of knowing is to get the names of all seven guys, and then go and measure each - erect - personally. You can ask her how many were bigger, but she may not even have a reliable recollection of most of them, and female perception of penis size generally is a whole area of doubt in itself.

If she's slept with seven other guys and you're average, then three or four of them were probably bigger than you. So what does that tell you? It tells you you're perfectly normal and there's nothing wrong with you. So you've now incurred a whole heap of unwanted knowledge and potential worry for nothing.

Leave the girl to her secrets, you're better off without them. And she's there for you to form a close, trusting bond with, not as a laboratory to test the claim of some ex whose opinion doesn't sound worth worrying about if she was so ready to belittle you among her friends.

Anyway, what's your measurement? This is the place to find out, not a girl who probably doesn't know 6" from 8" and would rather be in a relationship with a nice guy than have to field a bunch of intrusive questions about past partners. Read some of the related threads here, you'll see that size isn't everything and knowing too much of a partner's past can be bad news indeed.

Male perception of penis size isn't too accurate neither. LOL.

Don't blame us, we've been told we're all 8".

Well, you and I both know there is no such thing as an instrument that can tell you if a girl has been with someone bigger than you.

I'm guessing you can just ask her.

But wait-
That's a horrible idea.
Just don't get into it. There's really no good that can come from it, anyway.

you are basing your new woman on an ex's comments?
How is that fair?
Just let it go, do your best and be a decent lad, yeah?

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Seems he didn't "want to know" that much. It's amazing that some people even bother with the one post when they aren't interested in any response. Or maybe the new partner decided to look for someone a little less clueless. I'm still scratching my head at the thread title: quite bizarre.

when it comes to size, it becomes so funny to talk about....lolozzzzzzzzzzz...........

An ex girlfriend of mine had had like 5 guys before me.... her previous boyfriend was "the biggest she ever had", so she said. I was like the "3rd biggest". But, I didn't care. She was with ME, and she came like 97.8% of the time we had sex.

It causes much more anxiety for a guy to THINK about past partners' sizes... but, once she's with you, and you know you're servicing her well, the anxiety vanishes. It's all in the mind.

Just my 2¢ on the subject.

Very healthy outlook JDANG.

I still manage to obsess from time to time, though!

there is a 90% chance that all of my lover's past men were bigger than me, so that takes the guess work out of it. so that leaves me to concentrate on being her best, or maybe more importantly the best i can be.

Don't we all have our obsessions and issues though?! I know I do. I have days I don't feel so confident and I do have things I want to improve on bodywise. Problem is-- it gets harder as you age! lol!

the way i see is quite simple... if you make her cum, then its all good...

I've had men ask me this.

And I bet they don't ever want to hear "Yes"!

Probably not .. lol.

But it's like I've said before on here, I honestly don't really notice anyway, unless a guy is really out of the norm. And there's only been one of those that I've seen, in all my years of being around men.

So to the two guys who asked me, I could truthfully say ... "I haven't seen many bigger than you!"

Men, like myself, who concern themselves with size will never hear anything that will "solve" their concerns. You may get more comfortable but never totally satisfied. My wife has been with only two other guys before me and a while back I asked her the question about their size (stupid, i know) and her response was that I was bigger (she is so sweet) but not to worry about it. She truly does not care how big mine is. But, I have seen her respond positively when we have seen really large ones on tv. She is enamored by a large penis but it is more of "I cant believe they get that big".

Peanut-- Like beautiful naked women can be a turn-on for men, the visual sight of a penis can be for women. I don't deny the visual appeal of a large penis. But just like a man who looks at other women, I turn around and appreciate the one I have at home so much more.

Women really do consider the whole man and not just the dick.

And truthfully? A large penis is most of the times better in fantasy then it is in reality. They can be very painful and usually don't fit all the way in. I've heard more complaints from women about large sizes- then I have small.

A smaller penis can be completely enjoyable-- but a large penis that only causes pain when inserted can be much more difficult to deal with.

Well put! I'm new here but that is sound advice, Firefly.