is there anyway to tell, if a girl has been with someone bigger than you? I am going out with someone who has slept with 7 other lads, im really insecure about my size because an ex said i was small to her friends who all decided to ask me. i just want to know if there is anyway to know if she has slept with bigger people..

thanks for any help

Just don't go there, seriously it causes nothing but trouble.

The only certain way of knowing is to get the names of all seven guys, and then go and measure each - erect - personally. You can ask her how many were bigger, but she may not even have a reliable recollection of most of them, and female perception of penis size generally is a whole area of doubt in itself.

If she's slept with seven other guys and you're average, then three or four of them were probably bigger than you. So what does that tell you? It tells you you're perfectly normal and there's nothing wrong with you. So you've now incurred a whole heap of unwanted knowledge and potential worry for nothing.

Leave the girl to her secrets, you're better off without them. And she's there for you to form a close, trusting bond with, not as a laboratory to test the claim of some ex whose opinion doesn't sound worth worrying about if she was so ready to belittle you among her friends.

Anyway, what's your measurement? This is the place to find out, not a girl who probably doesn't know 6" from 8" and would rather be in a relationship with a nice guy than have to field a bunch of intrusive questions about past partners. Read some of the related threads here, you'll see that size isn't everything and knowing too much of a partner's past can be bad news indeed.

Male perception of penis size isn't too accurate neither. LOL.

Don't blame us, we've been told we're all 8".

Well, you and I both know there is no such thing as an instrument that can tell you if a girl has been with someone bigger than you.

I'm guessing you can just ask her.

But wait-
That's a horrible idea.
Just don't get into it. There's really no good that can come from it, anyway.

you are basing your new woman on an ex's comments?
How is that fair?
Just let it go, do your best and be a decent lad, yeah?

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Seems he didn't "want to know" that much. It's amazing that some people even bother with the one post when they aren't interested in any response. Or maybe the new partner decided to look for someone a little less clueless. I'm still scratching my head at the thread title: quite bizarre.

when it comes to size, it becomes so funny to talk about....lolozzzzzzzzzzz...........

An ex girlfriend of mine had had like 5 guys before me.... her previous boyfriend was "the biggest she ever had", so she said. I was like the "3rd biggest". But, I didn't care. She was with ME, and she came like 97.8% of the time we had sex.

It causes much more anxiety for a guy to THINK about past partners' sizes... but, once she's with you, and you know you're servicing her well, the anxiety vanishes. It's all in the mind.

Just my 2¢ on the subject.

Very healthy outlook JDANG.

I still manage to obsess from time to time, though!

there is a 90% chance that all of my lover's past men were bigger than me, so that takes the guess work out of it. so that leaves me to concentrate on being her best, or maybe more importantly the best i can be.

Don't we all have our obsessions and issues though?! I know I do. I have days I don't feel so confident and I do have things I want to improve on bodywise. Problem is-- it gets harder as you age! lol!