My partner and I are planning two threesomes - one with a woman and one with a man. The MFF is another issue and I don't want to discuss that now - maybe in another post - but I do want to ask for your comments and hints regarding the MMF.

We want this to involve as much male/male interaction as female/male. This is a major fantasy for both of us and my partner (bless her cotton socks!) is encouraging me to explore my sexuality. I have always wanted to play with another bloke.

I know she will be helping (and what a turn on that will be!), in fact she already had me practising oral on a cucumber (I'm not making this up...) - but is there anything anyone can think of that I might need to prepare myself for? I don't want to do anal at this stage. I realise the absolute importance of hygiene and freedom from disease, and I don't really want to go into that here.

Can any of the gay guys here suggest anything?

Actually I'm not entirely sure why I am asking this. I do tend to over-analyse, and I think the best thing is just to go with the flow, I mean... being a bloke myself I know what feels good... My interest is more along the lines of what is good for two guys to
do... a gay/bi perspective, I suppose... the other guy is likely to be bi or bi-curious rather than exclusively gay.

Any comments?

Just let him know that it`s your first time with a guy, that will turn him on majorly and he`ll be more patient with you.

Wow, CFL. That's really hard to say. I like the idea of going with the flow but I also over analyze too. I just hope that two of you (you and your partner) are very secure because I imagine a lot of people like the fantasy but once they see their partner doing things with somebody else, major insecurities and jealousies could surface.

I just think you both should discuss what the ground rules are. Like what you will allow each other to do with the guest without getting upset. Also, I'd suggest smoking some marijuana or drinking a bit to diminish your inhibitions. I imagine hand and mouth stuff would be cool for both of you.

I've been talking about doing 3-somes with my partner for probably more than a year and a half. But whenever we try to find a woman we like, she's only interested in one of us. Usually me. Not both at the same time. It seems really hard to find a willing participant just to be a guest. My mission is just to find a woman to make love to my gf while I watch, or only touch my gf. I won't touch the guest. Anyway, that's the plan, but haven't found a willing guest yet.

We've discussed doing it with a girl and possibly a ladyboy (pre-op and post-op) but I don't know if I'm evolved enough to let a genuined manly man near my gf. I think I like to keep that in the fantasy zone. I think I might be able to deal with a very feminine pre-op ladyboy though. I'm sure we could find that possibility in Thailand

I've done quite a lot of 3-somes with 2 girls but both were strangers to me, it can be a lot of fun. But because they were both strangers there was no possibility of jealousy.

I'm curious and maybe you can help me. But how will you find a willing guest for a 3-some?

Thanks Graham, some good thoughts here. It is a difficult one if you are in a committed relationship. To both of us it's about pushing our boundaries - growing sexually.

How will we find a willing guest for a threesome? Well we are trying here:

www.adultmatchmaker.com.au

Our ID is Flywithus - if anyone is interested in checking our profile...

I think it would be safest to just pay somebody to play. That way they shouldn't interfere with the relationship and should leave you alone after. Their motivation is clear. Theoretically, anyway.

Ironically, a lot of pros still have limits to what they will do for money. Many of the ones I have asked won't make love to a woman, so that won't work for us. Because that's the whole point.

Some of my gf's friends have expressed an interest in group sex with us, but I think it would be dangerous to bring a friend into a sexual relationship. They may have a secret agenda, like having an interest in one of us.