Inspired by a comment made by Firefly in another thread ...

What toys do you use? How do you use them? Are they mostly for the benefit of the woman in your relationship? How did you first get started using them?

My GF and i use a couple of sex toys.

we have a "normal" vibe that i tend to use on her while she performs oral (completes the fantasy of a threesome without needing anyone else), or she will use it on her own

we have anal beads that we use during sex.

and lastly we have a wee-vibe. not sure if you have heard about this but would recommend it 100%. she can use it on her own and it does amazing things for her but it's even better when we use it during sex. gives her some of the best o's she ever has. It's expensive but worth it.

i got started using toys with my ex as i was looking for anyway to get her into sex (It didn't work) it then sorta just flowed on with the current GF that they can make sex more fun.

My wife and I haven't used any sex toys together (other than a strategically-placed mirror). I haven't used any solo and I don't think she has.

I really can't think of any toys that I would find appealing to be used on me. I sometimes think it would be arousing if my wife would be open to watching porn together before or during sex but I don't think she would be open to it.

Any toys we purchased would be for her pleasure (and mine, indirectly) but I really don't sense that she would be receptive.

Have you used any sex toys, Carole? Would you be in a position to recommend any from a female perspective?

I have a simple pocket rocket vibrator that my ex got for me four or five years ago, and I have a nice relationship with it .. . There are certainly fancier ones available. Just make sure you get one with variable speed (maybe they all do, I'm not sure).

I can't think of any reason at all why every woman wouldn't at least try a vibe, especially if she has trouble with orgasms. A vibe will pretty much bring you to orgasm every time, and quicker than, say, your finger alone. Even quicker than a tongue, although the tongue has other things going for it. I was 30-something before I ever tried one, and I was a little embarassed to use it at first, although looking back I can't imagine why.

A vibe isn't a replacement for a man, by any means. It's the easiest way to orgasm, but it can't hug you, it can't caress you, it can't kiss you and giggle with you in the afterglow of sex. And the buzzing sound can be annoying. It sounds a little like a rattlesnake ... lol.

My husband used one on me many times, and that was ok ... but frankly as long as he was going to be there anyway I preferred his tongue. An educated tongue is pure heaven. I'll take that any time.

To me, the vibe is better used solo. That's just my preference. Or if you're in the tub, a stream of warm water from the faucet is almost as good. And men wonder why women like to take baths ...

I'm the opposite to many women in that I don't cum as reliably with vibrators as I do with my own fingers. I've tried various different ones and currently own four but seldom use them. They are mainly just a novelty to me.

We've got a few. My wifes favorite is one with an oversized end and plugs into the wall. Her second favorite is a blue jelly g spot vibe and I absolutely love watching her use them. I know some guys are intimidated by thier woman using a vibrator but they really don't know what they are missing. There is nothing like watching my wife cum while she uses it, very very hot.

That's a good point. A man shouldn't consider a vibe to be a rival ... it's more like a supplement, for want of a better word.

Thanks for the feedback.

How about cock rings? Have you ever had a partner who used one? I have no experience but I have it on good authority that they do increase a guy's girth substantially. And, of course, some have a vibrator.

I never have. I don't know anything about it. Maybe I need to study up on this subject some more ...

I've been warned about cock rings from a male friend of mine. He told me that it seems great at first, but that a man may end up relying on it to maintain an erection. I don't know if it happened to him personally, or to a partner of his-- but its something to consider. Increasing girth or hardness a little bit is not worth losing the ability to maintain an erection on your own.

I have used a vibrating cock ring with my partner. I enjoyed the sensation - but she LOVED it - she enjoyed it so much she got on top of me and forgot to move, just ground herself down on to me. Eventually the battery went flat...

Cock rings are safe as long as they are used properly.

How do you use them properly?

First of all they need to be adjusted properly for girth with just enough tension to allow fresh blood in and keep it there. If there is no blood flowing in then there is no oxygen getting to the cells and that can equal a dead dick, not good. Secondly, they shouldn't be worn for more than 20 to 30 minutes at a time and then removed for several minutes to allow the blood to be refreshed. If your wearing a cockring and your dick starts turning black or going numb, you've got a problem. It will darken a few shades but you've go to pay attention to whats happening down there. Like most other things, you've got to use common sense. As far as it causing a guy to be unable to keep an erection without wearing one I have my doubts unless he has damaged himself by not using it wisely or there is something else going on. As we all know, loss or an erection can be caused by 101 things. A cock ring can increase girth temporarily because it traps blood in the penis. With consistent use over a long tie period they can cause a permanent increase in girth because you are forcing the vessels to expand and thereby stretching them and increasing thier ability to hold more blood. By the way, my wife likes the feeling of a vibrating cock ring. I guess you could say it's the best of both worlds, a real cock that vibrates.

Can you recommend a specific brand and source?

Thank you beetleboy!

Mine is an Erectus Alta which I bought on line at bettersex.com. It's highly adjustable and is easily removed. I wear it in front of my scrotum so my wife can grind on it. For those wondering, I am in no way associated with the company. It's just a good company with great customer service, a wide selection of products, and fair prices. I've bought several items form them and have no complaints.

we just got a cock ring with vibe. newer design that has the vibe oriented to promote clitoral stimulation. and wholly crap it works great, came from adam&eve think its called the wang-o?

At the risk of sounding naive, what does a vibrating cock ring do for you guys? If I was having sex with a man who had a vibe attached to his cock, I'd want him to press it against me and hold it there, without thrusting. But that doesn't really do anything for you men, does it?

Am I missing something?

Believe it or not, there are some guys who actually get off on seeing their woman satisfied. Most guys do require thrusting to reach orgasm, but that doesn't mean we can't be patient and wait for the girl to come first, or a few times.

I find it very erotic when a woman climbs on top and grinds her soft parts against my pubic bone. One former lover with very extraordinary perivaginal muscles could bring me to orgasm without any in/out motion at all.

Wearing a vibrating cock ring just adds a little more stimulation. For me personally, the vibrations wont make me cum, it just feels good. Myrealname hit the nail on the head though, to me there is absolutely nothng as sexy as a woman having an orgasm. There is a series of videos out, called beautiful tortue or something along those lines, where it is showing women having orgasms but only from the shoulders up. Just watching thier faces can almost get me to pop. I find them to be truly beautiful.

I've seen that website. The videos are very interesting, for sure.

Yes, us guys love to watch you gals come.

It is partly the satisfaction of knowing you are giving your partner pleasure.

But it also makes us feel like super-manly stud-muffins, which we kind of enjoy, even when we know we are not.

At the right moment, in the arms of the right girl, you ARE a super-manly stud-muffin.

We've got 2 toys. One is a mini-rabbit which my gf uses all the time on her clit while I'm fingering her or fucking her. Because it's just the clit vibrator and not the dildo there's plenty of room for me. So it's designed to be used together.

The other is a vibrating cock-ring. It actually has 2 rings. One to go around the balls and the other around the shaft. I found the vibrations annoying (it would make my cock numb after a while) so I removed the vibrating bullet and just use the rings alone. I only use it occasionally and it does add a little extra sensitivity probably due to the extra blood flow. But nothing very radically different.

The only cock ring I have is part of a g-string. The front of the g-string has a metal ring for the shaft to go through and the balls go into a tiny little pouch below the ring. I can usually wear that comfortably, but one time, my partner was playing with my cock when I had this g-string on and my cock got stuck inside the ring. I guess she made it grow an extra level. I couldn't get my cock out of the ring for a while and was starting to panic, but eventually managed to get it off. I was picturing myself having to go to an ER for help getting the ring off. Wouldn't that have been a site! haha I've been a little leery of getting an erection with that g-string on ever since.

I use Mr. Wiggles

no the sex toys are not just for the women...now they dont have all the fun..as mens sex toys are getting more and more popular these days..i have a few of them ..a flashlight masturbator and some cock rings..they are warm and give me the same pleasure...

cock rings worked for me too..they are just absolutely good and are helpful in longer and harder errection...they bring pleasure to both the wearer and the partner..and their result is awesome...

Just curious if you're familiar with or have any experience with the cock rings that have a short urethral plug to anchor them in place, and tease the cockhead both inside and out. Seems that they're actually used by some for extended wear...personally, I can't imagine having ANYTHING attached to my cock while trying to hold an intelligent conversation, and that these are more for foreplay. Just wondering what these devices are really like for anyone who has tried one.

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