That is another thing that doesn't work out.Sitting in the saddle.She can't spread her legs apart enough and when we did when we were younger, I think it was because of my size.she couldn't go up and down enough to give me enough friction.
But it did feel good to be buried in her all the way.Also she wasn't athletic enough to be comfortable in that position.
There really are some disadvantages to being short down there.
But we work it out.She has her one huge orgasm, and then I do some missionary work after she's done.
I was testing out some knew stuff I had just learned about from Amelia.She came real close to getting an orgasm during intercourse but she just couldn't get over the hump. But I know from that it is possible.That will be my moment of triumph.
Did you see my pics in the the member pics.I have a special species of penis.Although I am almost on the short end of average,some of the girls said it was good looking.
The girls also asked me if I talk to my penis. I told them yes
but I don't understand when it talks back because it only talks in Italian.

"from Amelia"--- lol! You still crack me up PBL!

I stay hopeful that maybe some day I will experience an orgasm from intercourse alone! But I don't obsess about it. Either I do or I don't. When did it first happen for you Carole?

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I have to remember your saying there-- thats a good one!

Personally, I've found that if I'm going to orgasm at all from penetration, it will usually happen within seconds of him entering me. Sometimes I'll have more than one, sometimes I'll have no vaginal orgasm at all. I'm not fussed about it because I'm more than happy to touch myself in his presence and he likes to observe.

I only started having vaginal orgasms after I started having nipple orgasms at the age of forty.

I don't think we should be reliant on men to give us our orgasms, they help but really the ability to orgasm comes from within us.

BTW What does "Intercourse Alone" mean? Do you have a a penis in a jar filled with formaldehyde ? Does your partner leave his penis with you so you can use it when he is not there? Does he leave his penis in you so when he leaves, you can move it back and forth after he leaves? Does it mean that you can't have an orgasm through penetration alone because your partner is not with you at the time of penetration?
I once had intercourse alone but it was in a dream after I went to sleep after eating spaghetti and meat balls. I went to see a dream interpreter to find out why I had that
dream and she told me that the meatballs must have been pretty close to the size of testicles and I happen to eat two of them at one time.Plus the fact that it was Italian food might have brought out my inner Italian stud feelings in me.
It really is a complicated thing to try to figure out why a person would have a dream of having intercourse alone.It was sort of a nightmare.I was thrusting my penis into empty space but I felt like I had penetrated a very expensive prostitute.The fact that I paid her with one of my personal checks, I knew that she was so expensive that I couldn't afford it.Plus I never got to see what she looked like because actually I was having intercourse alone without an orgasm.Do you know that movie "Home Alone?" Well when I was having my dream, I felt like I was really living in a movie called "Intercourse Home Alone."
But no, I never had an orgasm in real life from having intercourse alone
No serious. What do you mean orgasm through intercourse alone? Is there a way that you can get an orgasm trough penetration plus something else? My wife likes to use a vibrator ones in a while when I penetrate. But this is difficult to do because she had a bad back and we can only do it when I lay on my side and she remains in missionary position.That kind of crummy because when I go inside,my penis pushes in sideways instead of up and down. Once and a while we can both do missionary until she starts getting pain in her back.
Nevertheless,it still feels great to me although I wish I could enter her in a normal angle instead of 45*'s. She says it hurts her when I give her the 180* and/or the 0 to 360* intercourse.

It was during make-up sex after a fight with my husband. We'd been married for 10 years, and I have no idea why it happened then.

You're right about not obsessing. It doesn't happen every time by any means. I don't really know what does it, except that if I orgasm during foreplay that makes it easier. I think a lot of it is mental ... if I'm not in the right mood, it won't happen. Men probably don't want to hear this, but it's not really anything special they do, other than good foreplay. Once I get to a certain point, all they have to do is keep thrusting.

It only happens for me in missionary position. There's something about having my legs open and a man on top of me. As I say, it's mostly mental.

That's a good attitude to have. It's not like there's only one man on earth who can make us orgasm. I do think that being in love is a big factor, though. Being in love is the best aphrodisiac there is.

Bingo! Absolutely right!


Carole- if you don't mind my asking, how old where you the first time you orgasmed from penetration. I know pinkflames said it wasn't until she was in her 40's. How old were you?

35. And I'd been having sex with the same man for over 10 years. When it happened, it was completely unexpected. The difference was in my mental attitude, not something that he did. In fact, at first he thought I was faking. But he knew I didn't do that.

It was a good deal for him, because I really wanted sex a lot after that ...

I guess I have to readjust my mental attitude then! Lol!

It was like ... a letting go, a sort of resignation. As I mentioned, it was make-up sex and I remember I was actually still a little pissed at him. Maybe that had something to do with it, I dunno.

It's still frustrating in a way, because it doesn't happen every time and it's hard to predict when it will. I do know that I need to be sexed-up really good first. And I can't "try" to have an orgasm. If I do, it doesn't happen.

To me, an orgasm with a man inside me is no different physically than with a vibe or whatever. But emotionally, it is. It makes me want to melt into him. It makes me want to hold onto him really tight. It's hard to describe but I'm guessing you know what I mean

Here is the problem with my wife.If I get her aroused during our foreplay,once she is aroused, to try to penetrate her,she looses her arousal and and gets super angry that I stopped doing her clit. I keep on thinking that I have to get her aroused and then
stop the foreplay for the penetration and with that she would continue to rise in arousal when the intercourse starts up.
Once she is aroused I am dead meat if I stop doing the oral sex.

Hey, I didn't get any comments feedback from that video I put there. It seems pretty normal to me.It is a far cry from what my wife and I do.Which I posted above.I was not trying to turn anyone on.I was wondering why the sex seemed so good and natural for them.
It is obvious that the girl wasn't faking it at all.
Whats the scoop on that post I put up there?

this, my friends is foreplay:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MlGkT_5Yn6s

Nice link, secondchance. Unfortunately, I've noticed that too many men on these types of forums seem to think foreplay equals cunnilingus. I wish men would realise that lovemaking involves the whole body, not just the genitals.

this is exactly what female sexuality is about, in my opinion. letting go of the mental barriers, the walls that hold back the deepest layers. letting go is the key, which comes from trust in your partner and yourself.

i think there are a lot of things a man can do to help with this, to build the trust. before the bedroom, before sex, make sure she knows how much you love her, want her, and how much she turns you on. do the things that show her you believe in her, that you are partners in your relationship. i joke about vacuuming being the best foreplay, but there is a lot of truth in that. the bottom line is that she has to trust and believe in a way that requires no thinking, no doubt when your making love to her. she can let go, allow, open herself mentally and emotionally. sure, friction and technique are important. but to paraphrase yogi, sex is ninety percent half mental.

there are lots of techniques that couples can use achieve this connected state of trust. but i believe it is the key to getting to a higher level of sexual satisfaction.

There definitely is. One of the things that used to turn me on more than anything was watching my husband interact with our kids. Even now, it makes me a little squishy when I see a man out in public loving his children. And "Mrs. Doubtfire" is one of my alltime favorite movies.

I loved the tantra video too, secondchance

AMEN!

For women, foreplay often begins long before theres anything sexual going on. Outside of the bedroom. I mention that in one of my articles.

And when it is time for sexual play-- men tend to grab for the goodies way too quickly. Yes, theres a time and a place for frenzied, get right to it sex-- but a lot of women want be "wooed"- I guess you could say. We like the anticipation-- the touching in areas and places other then our sex organs and breasts. Our wrist, shoulders, neck, legs, stomach... etc... all very erogenous areas. A womans skin is more sensitive then a mans and craves that touch.

In fact, in my experience, there have been times I've really been in the mood for sex-- but when a man just gives me a couple of kisses, fondles my breast for the requisite min. and then goes for the pussy as quickly as possible-- it can actually TURN OFF my desire like a light switch. I'm disappointed and wonder what the point is.

I want to be touched and kissed. I want to be touched through my clothes. I want to be kissed without groping hands right away. Men should know that a good part of female sexual response hinges on anticipation. If she doesn't get some of that-- she may be disappointed.

Yes, not every time needs to be like that. I enjoy quickies very much. Sometimes a good frenzied f*uck is whats needed and wanted. But if a woman feels she just a sperm deposit box- shes not going to want to have sex with you very often. Even if she is really horny.

Kissing is way important. A man who is a good kisser is most likely a good lover too, so when you get good kissin', there's lots of anticipation there.

And I don't know how common this is, but my face is a huge erogenous zone. Sensuously caress my face and neck while you're kissing me, and you're there! That's almost a guaranteed panty remover.

Yep, this is exactly what happens to me too.

Your entire post is pretty spot on.