I think 99% of the women will tell you that this is way more important than a big dick. Some don't even want a guy with a big dick if he "doesn't know how to use it."
About intercourse, this really helped me out and was suggested
from Firefly. Once you have studied the lesbian videos that you have found at 4tube.com, then try this.When you start to have intercourse, mix up your speed, depth, and angle. First go in real slow and maybe half way in.Stay that way for a bit and then
go in shallow and fast. While your doing that, start to change your angle of penetration.Stay a certain angle for a bit then change.However I posted a video showing a guy using the area of the abdomen just above his penis to push and pull up against his partner's clit then pulling up.
Making circles works good too. Firefly says that when you do circles by moving your hips simulates a wider penis.That worked pretty good for me but my wife has a bad back so I can't do that anymore. I'll see if I can find the video.

But always remember that foreplay is the very most important way to excite your partner.Even more important than your penis.I'm sure the girls here will back me up on this.
Because of the small size of my penis, I depend on my
foreplay for 99.9% of my wife's pleasure.
Through practice, I can now use one finger only with some lubricant with about 5-10 mins and make my wife have a huge orgasm. I'm convince that no big penis can compete with my one finger.
So I would forget about size.If you get the opportunity to have sex with your wife (I can't say girl friend or boyfriend) then forget about your size and remember what I have written.
My penis is really short(under 5") and just I just make it into the girth range of average (4") and I am convinced that my wife could not have a better orgasm with a guy can with a 7" penis.

Yep. Yep. Yep.

I would say the most common mistake men have made with me over the years is wanting to enter me too soon. I won't let them do it now, but when I was younger I wasn't assertive enough and I let men enter me before I was ready. Also, I'm with older men now who aren't so overeager so it's not as much of an issue as it used to be.

It's simple, really ... if your woman isn't really wet, then she's not ready. And if she's not ready, she needs more foreplay. For me, the best way to get me ready is to use your tongue. Not that I don't like other things, but your tongue will work every time.

Usually it takes a little while to really get me wet. And talking about this reminds me of a man I was with about a year ago. One night we sat on his couch in front of the fireplace and made out for about three solid hours. He was a terrific kisser, but during that time, he never even put his hands inside my clothes. He caressed my face and lightly touched my breasts and thighs, but outside my clothes.

Well, by the end of that three hours I was so aroused I could hardly talk, and I was squirming around like a schoolgirl. I was so wet I could have put out a housefire. I finally jumped him myself and practically ripped his clothes off.

I'm not saying you always have to take three hours. But the more foreplay you do, the more aroused your woman will be. If she's anything like me, eventually she'll get to a point where she'll want it so bad she can't stand it.

There ARE times that I am the impatient one and want to take him pretty much straight away even if I not that wet.

Yes, I get very impatient sometimes too-- even before I'm wet!


Carole, I can see why that man had you really going! For many women, anticipation is one of the greatest parts of sexual contact. Anticipating what will happen does much to ramp it up for women. Another one of the biggest sexual mistakes men make is going for the goodies too quickly. Granted, there are moments when that is appropriate-- but I like a bit of a buildup. Touch around an area-- through the clothes. When it comes time to go for it, touch through the panties and tease fingers around the edges-- sometimes grazing underneath.

Men tend to just reach in and grab, while I want some more finesse and teasing touch. Though, like I said, grabbing has its exciting moments as well!

I don't know.Even though my wife is tight with my little penis,she only gets off from the foreplay and had her orgasm that way.She says that the clitoris was made for the women to have her
enjoyment and the penetration was for the guys pleasure.She never
craves penetration no matter how excited she gets. Am I missing something here? It sounds like you girls like to be aroused by the foreplay so,pardon the french, get fucked.I don't have that in my relationship.
Just to find out if size was the problem, I got a penis sleeve that added about an in of girth and over an inch in length.She said that the penis I had was hitting the same exact sesitive parts of her vagina only it took her about 5 extra minutes to handle the extra size so she wouldn't hurt.So I know it wasn't the size. Something isn't making sence

Does she have pain with any kind of penetration? Sounds like it could be a physical issue. She may just naturally be very small and tight. Does she not enjoy penetration at all?

She things it feels pleasant but it is nothing like the tounge stuff I do with her now. And if I get her aroused with her foreplay and I stop to put my penis in,then she has physically kicked me out of bed once for ruining her orgasm.
No really, she goes for her orgasm with the foreplay and the penetration is pleasurable to her. Only one time did I penitrate her and almost made her come.I was able to get a finger on her clit while I was doing the intercourse and she 99% almost got it.
But that was it.
I guess my sex life is weird because my wife isn't into penetration and I'm not blaming my small penis on that. All these months I've been studying sex and I thought it was the foreplay that was the main thing.
Now I find out that the foreplay is to get things warmed up for the fuckking.

Here's a little foreplay tip that just happened to .. umm .. make itself known to me this evening ... don't bite your woman's nipples too hard!

I was notified of that situation just one time and I never did it again. I think I got elbowed!

lol

I'm sure that you would love my foreplay.I studied it for almost a year. What happens if I stimulate you too much with foreplay? Would you be upset that you got all your excitement with foreplay.
I mean wouldn't you want to be kissed for about a 5-10 minutes
and them move on to the next steps of caressing and treating each each special point on your body as it would need attention.I mean, I would caress your body from your shoulder and sensually meet my lips on your right nipple gently sucking and maneuvering my tongue in circles while I gently sucked and massage your right breast using the pressure from my face as I sucked.At the same time that was going on my hands would be making caressing stokes starting from you shoulder,down in between your bests until my hand traveled down on your panty. I would do this same stroke eachtime getting closer to your crotch area where i would begin to put my two or there fingers
and just rubbed your entire crotch involving your whole vaginal
area and rubbed that whole area through your panties knowing that I was giving you indirect clitoral stimulation but not
that specific yet as to define that I had actually touched your
clit. And this whole thing would keep getting more intense for you that you couldn't help but to take off your panties so I could rub your crotch with my hand but this time although not pinpointing your clit, I could feel from my hand that your clit had expanded and nade sure that the palm of my hand was running
your enlarged clit.
The darn thing takes a real long time to do.
Usually when I do this to my wife, by this time her eye lids seem heavy like she had taken some kind of strong sedating drug.
But she gets her orgasm from the foreplay and even though she
enjoys the penetration, since she had her big orgasm, she allows my to get my penetration fun and thats it.
She was satisfied by her huge orgasm from my tongue on her clit. Last time we had our time together,I only used one finger
the whole way and she got a tremendous orgasm.
Why she doesn't seem to get thrilled by penetration and crave it, I have no idea.This is just the way we have done things for the past 20 years.
I am just finding out tonight that we are missing a whole part of our encounter because she wants to get off from the foreplay and lets me have my penetration fun after.The only thing besides the forplay that she likes is watching me cum.
Other than the foreplay, that is all she wants.
I had no idea that women crave and have to have penetration to be satisfied. Call me naive but since my wife is only one of 4 partners I ever had in my life, I though what we were doing was normal. But again hearing all these women who want to get
excuse fucked, I had no idea,

Well I searched the internet and so far I found all kinds of situations. I am not the only one that gives the girl the orgasm through foreplay.Some girls just don't get super excited with penetration. I really don't know what is happening with our intercourse but my wife usually has a huge orgasm through foreplay
and afterwards she enjoys the intercourse but it is no where near the pleasure she get's from the foreplay.She goes nutz with the foreplay. Don't ask me why but that is how it has been and we just celebrated our 20th anniversary.

Yeah, I think that just shows how everyone is different. You're fortunate that she has huge orgasms from your foreplay. You must be very good! Some women don't even have that.

For myself, having an orgasm from foreplay first is like a prerequisite for an orgasm by penetration. If I don't get an orgasm from foreplay, then I probably won't from the penetration.

The three-hour thing I mentioned was very unusual ... I don't think I could have stood it another minute. I was practically begging to be fucked.

I don't get orgams from penetration. The only way that can happen is with clit play. Most women do not get orgasms from penetration. I usually get my orgasm from foreplay and then enjoy penetration. Some women are the opposite. Like Carole says-- we are all different.

PBL-- isn't a lot of this stuff we've talked about extensively about for almost the last year?

Carole- I'm with you on the biting nipples thing. I had a man do that to me once-- and I about punched him. Its one of those things I mention is one of my articles on here. (some women enjoy that, but most women DON'T)

If I didn''t get insecure once in a while then I would be conceded.
Carole make me insecure in the fact that she is waiting for all these orgasms from intercourse.My and my little thing only puts out
for about 5-10 minutes and it isn't anything radical.I just do it in missionary possition. Nothing dramatic.I just do the best I can with the 4 and a half inches for 5-10 minutes.Nothing anything like the porn guys. I just put it in and vary as much as I can do the circles you taught me.If I got a girl that had to have alot of intercourse than she would not be compatible with me.I probably leave with a very short ego.

Since you're not with Carole or going to be-- then what does it matter? The only woman that matters is your wife, and how you two are together. Not everyone is sexually compatible.

And anyways- I think you are selling Carole short. I think shes very sexually expressive and mindful that different partners mean different experiences.

And since when are porn guys a standard to follow for sex with a real woman thats not getting paid for it? A very large part of sex for women, has NOTHING to do with the "penis in the vagina".

But you know this- as I've told you all this before!

Ok... So you think that Carole would have a good time with me? I mean with all you taught me,there is always the chance that she might go nuts with all those circles, angles,speeds, and varied depths I do
Hey Carol. Did you ever go out with a guy that does circles, while he does different angles and speeds and depths simultaneously during sex? And I can go for over 30 minutes or more if I take 100 mg of Viagra.It can also take up to three weeks to achieve an orgasm because of this one medication I take so I could practically be good for 12 hours a day on Viagra.
Hey Amelia,I never thought of it but she might die during intercourse with me. I need to be more careful about that.

Ok.. I don't usually do this but I don't think I ever saw anything this good so far. The sex I have with my wife is a joke compared to this.Heres the video As a matter of fact it is pathetic to compare this to what my wife and I do. When we make love I just keep on working on her clit with my tounge and finger more or less and then with in 10 minutes, usually 5 minutes, she has one big orgasm and then she closes her legs and doesn't want to be touched there any more.
Then I go and have my fun doing my penetration in which she shows pleasure but no where close to have her moaning or anything. And then because of my meds not allowing me to orgasm, I just go until I feel aroused as much as I can. I guess you can say that I get stuck in a semi orgasmic state and
stop screwing when I can't get more excited and get as much as I can out of it.Then sometime during the next usually 24 to 48 hrs I have to get the orgasm doing it myself when no one is home. How far this is from what is in this video.
If I ever saw my wife go out with a guy this big and have the same reactions that this girls is having, I think I would go out and bury myself out in some cemetery and lie there and die.
This girl seems to keep having orgasms from the penetraction and I don't see one big one like my wife has. I see the girl have a couple real strong orgasms during the sex.But if I could bring my wife to have and orgasm during intercourse, she would throw me off of here after the first big one.Are we normal?
Oh .. you may want to watch this in full screen mode.

I know ... it was a long time before I ever did. I have to really be sexed up good .. that's why I need the orgasm from foreplay first. It's funny though. My orgasms from foreplay (or when I do it myself) are predictable. I could spell it out to a partner ... if you do this, I will cum. If you don't, then I won't.

But my orgasms from penetration aren't predictable at all. I never know if it's going to happen. I remember one memorable time with my ex-husband, I orgasmed about 15 seconds after he entered me. Fifteen seconds ... wow. It made me so emotional I was sobbing in his arms, but it never happened again. I have no idea why it happened that time.

I have had this discussion with men before, as I'm sure you have, Firefly. Sooner or later they'll be comparing men and women, and say something like "women can get sex anytime they want", to which I always reply "Maybe so, but men cum every time. We don't."

I don't want to sound complaining about this. Having a man inside me is great, whether I orgasm or not.



Yep, yep, yep. I like nipple-biting, but verrrrry gently. This guy last night chomped down like he was eating corn on the cob.

Yeah, circles and angles are good. So is riding "tall in the saddle." But I dunno about doing all that stuff simultaneously. I think it's best to find the thrusting motion that feels good to her and keep with it. If the motion changes too much when she's getting close, it's distracting.

That's how it is for me, anyway.



So true, Firefly. One reason I really like older men is because they understand this better.